Make the cake..... drive to the wedding..... when taking it out of vehicle.... Opps! It fall down go boom...Loose money, yes... Seeing their faces... priceless...
Perhaps I agree with your approach.
Take the order politely.
Lose the order, or create an unacceptable delay, or bake a shitty cake or a poorly decorated one, or show up with a dozen donuts because the order got mixed up, or trip walking in with it, or lose the delivery address.
Refund the money politely.
But better yet, bakeries who don’t want this business should stop doing it in general: “Sorry, we no longer do weddings.” Let wedding cakes become a task for the involved families to create.
Bands who don’t want to do gay weddings can stop doing weddings - let that be the responsibility of someone else. Same with photographers.
Two people, humbly standing before God and perhaps a few other witnesses, taking a vow of marriage - this should be the focus. It should be the only focus. The rest is fluff, often bordering on sacrilege in these times.
These vows, taken before God, families and perhaps a few others, ARE the wedding, they literally ARE the marriage that is being created. The rest is mere distraction. The solemnity of what one is vowing should not be distracted from with all the narcissistic and cultural crap that has come to create this social monster.
If clergy are sued or imprisoned because, out of conscience, they refuse to administer the vows to gays, that is a hill worth dying on. But I just can’t get worked up over the rest of this pre-wedding, wedding, and post-wedding turmoil.
Bingo!!! We have a winner!!!