Posted on 08/18/2013 6:44:58 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
With their biological clocks ticking, time poor and cash rich 40-something singletons are turning to the internet to find their man.
But these broody women are not looking for a relationship - instead they are looking for someone to father their child. More and more people across the U.S and UK are opting for the so-called 'co-parenting’ relationships – biological parents who have an otherwise platonic relationship, but who both contribute to raising the child.
Emma Elms reports on the rise of the unconventional trend.
WANTED Male co-parent to father at least one child with an attractive, financially independent 42-year-old woman. Must be a fully involved co-parent happy to share emotional and financial responsibility. Pregnancy via IVF by January 2014.
Rachel Hope, 42, is a property developer from Los Angeles. She is attractive, successful…and wants to be pregnant by January 2014. After 18 months of searching for a potential baby father, she has signed up to a website giving her access to thousands of men across the world who, like her, aren’t looking for a relationship, but want a child with someone who’ll take their parenting role seriously. Instead of strings attached, there’s an umbilical cord. ‘I’m in serious talks with three men – one from India, one from Germany and a gay man from the US,’ says Rachel.
Melani, 42, a senior sales consultant from New York, has also joined Modamily.com. ‘Ideally, I’m looking for the whole package – love, man and a child – but I’m also 42 and, although I’m in great shape, my biological clock has almost finished ticking. I need to be as proactive as I can.’ Melani is looking for 50:50 involvement with a co-parent, providing equal emotional and financial commitment to the child.
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As someone who brought the first child home at 36 and the last one home at 45, have babies early and often. I can assure you that a 15 year old at age 60 is a different kind of torture!
I’m guessing some of these broads don’t realize that one of the big reasons they have not been able to find decent men who want to marry and have children with them is that for a man, the risks far outweigh the potential rewards. The men these women attract for this kind of arrangement aren’t going to be Mensa candidates. I’m surprised there hasn’t been a larger number of men in their 20’s and 30’s getting vasectomies.
You are SO right!
Even from a purely physical point of view, pregnancies and their resulting children begin to be much more problematic, starting when the woman is in her early-to-mid thirties.
My last child was born when I was almost 35 -- but even at that relatively young age, the pregnancy was more difficult for me to carry that the previous pregnancies in my 20s. I was already getting too "old," from an obstetrical point of view.
Obstetrical old-ness has little to do with a woman's looks -- she can be outwardly youthful-looking and even very "fit." But if she has her first baby when she is over 34 years old, she will be considered an "elderly primigravida" by medical professionals, for good reason.
Children borne of such "late" pregnancies also tend to have more physical problems than children borne of mothers in their 20s (which is NOT to say that their lives are worth less; it is merely an observation of fact).
As more news gets out about the higher risk of physical and mental problems faced by children borne of IVF treatments (e.g. autism) and other extreme measures that are taken by desperate women in their 40s ... I think we will begin to see more women take a jaundiced view of feminist dogma that insists that career must come first, and children last.
Are you me in another dimension? Exactly! I thought I was the only one in this position. I married a younger woman and expected her to be with me rearing a young one. She died. Now I have a 15 year old out of control hormone addled teenager.
Not even Laz would hit that.
They want to “have” children but don’t want to “be” parents.
There’s a poster on FR who has signed-up to deal with a 15-year-old when he’s 80 (if he’s still alive).
Advice: get a tazer.
Isn’t that AlexW in the Phillipines?
Dude doesn't know jack squat. While my 11 YO is not my first child (he has a sister and brother aged 26 & 24, respectively), to say I haven't been able to enjoy his "fundamental years" is utter nonsense.
I'm now 59, and we just returned from vacation, and Mom opted not to join us. Our first week included stops at Monument Valley and Bryce Canyon for horseback rides, and a day of canyoneering near Zion NP:
Definitely would have to use a sack for that one!
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