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Would You Practice Polygamy If It Were Legal?
Slate ^ | Friday, July 26, 2013 | Faye Wang

Posted on 07/27/2013 12:15:47 PM PDT by nickcarraway

No.

And not because of moral reasons, it's simply a matter of practicality. I've never seen a polygamous relationship in which every participant was happy and content. Because of my research into alternative lifestyles, I actually know a lot of people who are in polygamous relationships (there are support groups for that, you know). I don't think it is immoral, as long as all parties involved are consenting adults.

However in practice, such a relationship requires way too much energy to maintain, and one or two people are always left feeling unhappy, undervalued, not needed, and not loved. Human beings are selfish and possessive, especially when they're in love. Very few people are capable of sharing their loved ones with other people, even under the pretense that you receive love from the other person. This is especially true if the polygamous relationship is 1 male + multiple females or 1 female + multiple males. One will undoubtedly become the favorite, and the other will end up resentful and feeling depressed.

An ideal situation, which most polygamous relationships I knew were trying to achieve, is somewhat a "network" of love, instead of a pyramid. For example, in a relationship with one male and three females, if the love exists only between the male and each female, it's not going to work. It has to be male and female, and female and female, in other words, everyone needs to love everyone.

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To: El Cid

You said it. That’s the beginning and end of the discussion for me.


61 posted on 07/27/2013 1:00:56 PM PDT by .45 Long Colt
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To: nickcarraway

No man can serve two masters.


62 posted on 07/27/2013 1:01:02 PM PDT by Toucan Dance
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To: dfwgator

Nooo....no...too many butcher knives laying around in the house


63 posted on 07/27/2013 1:01:27 PM PDT by Bullfrogg (American by birth, Irish by heritage, and hellraiser by choice)
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To: saminfl

:-)


64 posted on 07/27/2013 1:01:52 PM PDT by gura (If Allah is so great, why does he need fat sexually confused fanboys to do his dirty work? -iowahawk)
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To: Mr. Jeeves

“Polygamy only works - as it has throughout human history - for rich and powerful men who choose to take in one or more wives and concubines.”

Indeed! (Although you’re actually discussing polygyny. Polygamy refers to “multiple spouses”.)

Consider that, for every man with two wives, there would be one with none. Until recently, a large fraction of the young, male population was killed in periodic wars. That left a “surplus” of women, such that some men could have multiple wives, without resulting in other (living) men having none. A population, with polygyny, can rebound from a nearly total loss of the male population. The same can’t be said for polyandry (which has never been very common, anywhere).


65 posted on 07/27/2013 1:04:26 PM PDT by USFRIENDINVICTORIA
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To: nickcarraway

I have a hard enough time making it work with just one. The beauty of it is, she still puts up with me.


66 posted on 07/27/2013 1:06:55 PM PDT by stevem
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To: nickcarraway
The new wife.


67 posted on 07/27/2013 1:13:07 PM PDT by Ruy Dias de Bivar (Sometimes you need 7+ more ammo. LOTS MORE.)
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To: Responsibility2nd

‘Them sister wives are hot’.

Uh, not so much. Time to put on some better specs. And the mental/spiritual baggage, oy.


68 posted on 07/27/2013 1:14:05 PM PDT by lurk
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To: ataDude
Oh, he!! no. One is too many. :-)

Agree 100 percent!
69 posted on 07/27/2013 1:15:04 PM PDT by TexanByBirth (Free Republic: where they may agree with the message, but they love to shoot the messenger!)
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To: nickcarraway
H’ll No

One is quite hard enough

With Polyandry - Who would want to deal with more than one Prick
With Polygyny - well, I just don't see the attraction

70 posted on 07/27/2013 1:17:28 PM PDT by HangnJudge
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To: spudville

LOL


71 posted on 07/27/2013 1:17:33 PM PDT by Girlene (Hey, NSA!)
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To: dfwgator

One wife is plenty.


72 posted on 07/27/2013 1:29:51 PM PDT by tips up (Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see.)
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To: allendale
Many married men ...

Define many. And men being men, I doubt that wandering eye troubles go away with polygamy.

73 posted on 07/27/2013 1:31:11 PM PDT by slowhandluke (It's hard to be cynical enough in this age.)
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To: nickcarraway

Very typical of Slate. They’re like the fallback option for libtards when HuffPost is down.

“Oh, I don’t think its immoral to have several wives’

Yet I bet if we go back, Slate was mocking those who said the status of polygamy as immoral might change after homo-marriage.


74 posted on 07/27/2013 1:31:21 PM PDT by Viennacon
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To: slowhandluke

Just remember that each of your wives could have several husbands too.


75 posted on 07/27/2013 1:33:20 PM PDT by GeronL
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To: saminfl

I am so sorry for your loss.


76 posted on 07/27/2013 1:34:50 PM PDT by Girlene (Hey, NSA!)
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To: dfwgator

They would end up comparing notes on your shortcomings.......literally.


77 posted on 07/27/2013 1:46:02 PM PDT by The_Media_never_lie (Actually, they lie when it suits them! The crooked MS media must be defeated any way it can be done!)
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To: nickcarraway
Would You Practice Polygamy If It Were Legal?

Monogamy and bigamy are similar in that they are both the result of one wife too many.

78 posted on 07/27/2013 1:48:20 PM PDT by MosesKnows (Love many, trust few, and always paddle your own canoe.)
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To: nickcarraway

No.

The solution to a current woman problem is not to add another woman into the mix. Why people think that a second woman will solve their problems with women is kind of (as Einstein put it) insane.


79 posted on 07/27/2013 1:48:31 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: The_Media_never_lie

They = the multiple wives


80 posted on 07/27/2013 1:48:57 PM PDT by The_Media_never_lie (Actually, they lie when it suits them! The crooked MS media must be defeated any way it can be done!)
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