I didn’t misunderstand you. I just have a different perspective, based on many years of observation. I did not mean to infer that you were suggesting a church should skirt around awkward truths. But I also know that spiritual associations are serious business, and many people with good intentions, sometimes even pastors, tend to overestimate their own resistance to spiritual disease.
So yes, I would invite a gay person to an evangelistic event, or witness to them personally, but I would not invite them to church, unless they expressed to me an intent to publically repent of their deviant sexual behavior. Church is for the shepherding of the flock. The pastor feeds the flock in safety, not in the presence of wolves, even if they are only there out of curiosity. Associations matter.
My pastor has been preaching the truth for well over 25 years, and he has given the alter call each and every time he finishes a sermon. Some accept and come to Jesus, some do not.
How can one answer an alter call if they are not there to hear it, and how can one want to be called if they are are not withing hearing to respond.
Years ago when I answered the call, I was living a life of sin and enjoyed every moment of it. I thank God that I, a sinner, was invited. Oh, my friend never thought I would accept his invite, and he surely was not prepared for me to accept Jesus.
Church is NOT only for the saved to be fed, it is also for the lost to be saved. I have seen many, many sinners come to my church and my pastor has never fallen into false doctrine for it.
You need to have more faith in Jesus being the shepherd and stop worrying if those who attend church, that have a said faith, will fall away from grace because a sinner has entered the building.