Posted on 05/18/2013 8:37:53 AM PDT by Impala64ssa
I’ve been dealing with this scenario for so long, I had forgotten how strange it was until just a few days ago when I was talking to Joe on the telephone and the topic somehow came up. What scenario am I talking about? Well, that would be a law enforcement call for service that those of us in law enforcement refer to as the “Dial-A-Dad”.
The “Dial-A-Dad” is essentially when a parent, for one reason or another, calls the cops to come and discipline their child. I am not talking about the 6’ tall, 200 pound high school football lineman out of control child who is physically fighting their parents/neighbors/siblings. I am talking about the young kids who are not eating their dinner, going to bed, doing their homework, etc. I have responded to these calls for children as young as 6 years old. And yes, people really do call the cops for this.
I find it both humorous and sad at the same time. The fact that any adult would even consider calling the cops because their young child will not do what they are told is so ridiculous, it screams of something from a sitcom. Unfortunately, it is all too real.
On a deeper note, I find these calls a sad reflection on today’s society and the utter lack of personal responsibility. People have become so reliant on the government that they are now calling the government to discipline their child. Others complain that their children do not show them respect, so in some twisted, distorted form of logic, they think that calling the cops on their child will somehow make that child respect them.
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There is another problem the article does not address. Many parents fear the various government Family Gestapo Units that respond to charges of “child abuse” if they attempt to discipline their children with anything but words. Many children know this or are at least aware that if mom or dad touches them, they can get them in serious trouble. Parents are toothless and defer to others to avoid any problems with the state.
“Dial-a-Dad.”
Who you gonna call when you kicked your childs father outta the home and you can’t handle your brat? “Dial-a-Dad.”
And when it isn’t some simgle mom calling the police, it’s the school. When some little sugared up ADHD FAS kid who’s off his meds again goes balistic in class; what do they do? They play “Dial-a-Dad”; and the cops show up, taze the kid and place him in cuffs.
Cool, huh? When femi-nazi’s thought that men were unnecessary and the gubmint replaced the father with a welfare check, we have generations of lost and hopeless children (now having lost and hopeless children of their own) and “Dial-a-Dad.”
Yes. Fear of kid calling cops is a. Real fear for parents.
The same problem happens in schools too. These kids know that it’s against the law for a teacher to touch them at all. If a teacher touches a student, it’s lawsuit time.
It’s a crazy world, isn’t it? Years ago, we didn’t have the discipline problems we have today. Years ago, schools were allowed to use corporal punishment, and parents were allowed to spank their children.
It makes me think about how many of our grandparents and other ancestors would have gone to jail nowadays, based on the discipline they administered back in their day.
Everyone know you don’t call the cops when the kid won’t eat his peas, you call the tactical SWAT team.
"Actions have consequences" is a hard lesson to learn as well as being hard to teach. You handled that perfectly, and deserve a "gold star" for insightful parenting.
As children grow, they push at the limits to determine where the limits are. All to often there are none and they feel rudderless. For them to feel secure they need guidance from their parents. Congratulations, you passed her test with a perfect score.
Too many parents have never grown up themselves and cannot see past being a buddy or best friend to their child. Parental love for their children is natural and necessary for a child to feel safe and protected, but love is not license to do whatever a child wants. Such parents are incapable of supplying the discipline that a growing child longs for and truly needs in order to find their place in the world. In that sense I am not advocating physical discipline but rather the ability to focus your thinking and reason your way through a problem to a logical conclusion. Children need guidance to develop this skill and those who succeed in so doing are well on their way to becoming functional adults.
Regards,
GtG
From site: “When children, with no respect for authority or American values, grow up they become adults with no respect for authority or American values, and they end up electing Barack Obama who respects neither authority nor American values.”
Good job! And yes, every kid has their moments.
I remember one time when my 15-year-old son (an otherwise good kid) didn’t get his way about something. He said, “I can’t wait til I’m 18...I’m outta here!”
I stayed calm and said, “Maybe you won’t have to wait.”
Shook him up ‘cause he thought for sure I’d buckle.
My last child has grown and flown the coop. However, I always remember the one time she openly defied me. I still laugh. I told her to “come here” and she did. I told her “look at me” she did. I stated: “now look at you,” I said “who is bigger” to which she responded “You.” Lastly, I said “who is going to win?” To which she responded with the biggest grin I ever saw her make and I still can see that grin in my minds eye. She was a pleasure to raise perhaps it was because she came late in life after we had settled?
My children learned what ‘no’ meant by the time they were two years old. They were not allowed to touch things on the coffee table. You must teach them the meaning of parental authority when they are young, and you have to be consistent, and it DOES take effort.
Bribing a child to be good is bad parenting and a child learns fast when a parent ‘waffles’ and uses bribery. Children may rant but they feel more loved and ‘safe’ when they have parents who consistently hold them to the ‘rules’.
After it was written, I had her read it before bed every night for two weeks. Never had to discipline her again, and with the twins, I merely needed to say, "are we looking to write an essay?" and problems solved..
And today I was driving with one of the twins, who just returned from college. We were talking about her upbringing. It's an awesome feeling to have a 19 yr old tell you that you did a great job raising her.
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