Free Republic
Browse · Search
News/Activism
Topics · Post Article

Skip to comments.

Mother: I regret having my kids
MSN ^ | 4/12/13 | Rebekah Schilperoor

Posted on 04/12/2013 5:27:10 AM PDT by traderrob6

For many women, having a child is a joyous, albeit life-changing, occasion. But for 57-year-old Isabella Dutton of Britain, it was her biggest mistake.

Dutton, a typist, wrote a first-hand account for the UK’s Daily Mail in which she details her regrets about having her two children, Stuart and Jo.

“My son Stuart was five days old when the realisation hit me like a physical blow: having a child had been the biggest mistake of my life,” she wrote. “I felt completely detached from this alien being who had encroached upon my settled married life and changed it, irrevocably, for the worse.”

Dutton said that despite her indifference, she invested all of her time and energy into caring for her children. But she soon came to resent their neediness and the time spent doting on them that could have been used to “reflect, read and enjoy her own company.”

(Excerpt) Read more at living.msn.com ...


TOPICS: News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: abortion; parent; selfinvolved; selfish
Navigation: use the links below to view more comments.
first 1-2021-4041-45 next last
With sub human narcissists like this lacking regard for anyone but their own needy selves, is it any wonder why there are millions of abortions performed every year.
1 posted on 04/12/2013 5:27:10 AM PDT by traderrob6
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | View Replies]

To: traderrob6
“I felt completely detached from this alien being who had encroached upon my settled married life and changed it, irrevocably, for the worse.”


2 posted on 04/12/2013 5:32:32 AM PDT by Iron Munro (Welcome to Obama-Land - EVERYTHING NOT FORBIDDEN IS COMPULSORY)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6
Mother: I regret having my kids

"Daughter, if that is true, then we regret having you."


3 posted on 04/12/2013 5:35:06 AM PDT by Iron Munro (Welcome to Obama-Land - EVERYTHING NOT FORBIDDEN IS COMPULSORY)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6

The height of selfishness, and ignorant enough to admit and describe it.

What a lowlife.


4 posted on 04/12/2013 5:35:48 AM PDT by Venturer
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Iron Munro

I’m sure the feeling is mutual. Just wait until her kids go to pick her old folks home. I’m sure they’ll take great care.


5 posted on 04/12/2013 5:36:50 AM PDT by Jonty30 (What Islam and secularism have in common is that they are both death cults)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 2 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6

I think that some people, if they were brutally honest with themselves, would admit that they should not have had their children when they did. Especially young or out-of-wedlock mothers. In that sense, they can regret having kids. But to look back over the kids’ entire childhood and still say that you regret having them is a monumental act of self-centeredness. Let’s see how this “mother” feels if her kids regret having her as their mother and dump her off in a nursing home to die alone.


6 posted on 04/12/2013 5:37:19 AM PDT by Opinionated Blowhard ("When the people find they can vote themselves money, that will herald the end of the republic.")
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Venturer
The height of selfishness, and ignorant enough to admit and describe it.

And expecting people to nod in understanding and sympathy.

7 posted on 04/12/2013 5:37:20 AM PDT by Future Snake Eater (CrossFit.com)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 4 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6
Obviously, the woman has problems -- but that little fact does not strike me as the central problem here.

Some people are damaged, they have children, and cannot love and value their children.
Some people are damaged, they want to have sex with people of their own gender.
Some people are damaged, they want a surgeon to re-make them in a different gender.

Plenty of people are damaged. It's always been that way -- by our very nature, we are all damaged to some extent. No one is perfect.

The central problem is this: Society now looks at the damaged people and says "Well, that's perfectly normal. Only a very bad person would criticize someone for being like that. By all means, carry on. Don't change! Don't repent! Don't try to do better! You are fine just the way you are: perfectly normal."

Until we regain the ability to judge the damaged people and say, "You're doing it wrong" our society will not get well.

8 posted on 04/12/2013 5:38:23 AM PDT by ClearCase_guy (The ballot box is a sham. Nothing will change until after the war.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Opinionated Blowhard

If there’s any justice in the world that’s exactly what will happen.


9 posted on 04/12/2013 5:38:53 AM PDT by traderrob6
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 6 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6

Well Adam Lanza’s mom probably wondered what she ever did to deserve him...........


10 posted on 04/12/2013 5:39:10 AM PDT by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6

Great episode in Doc Martin where his mother tells him what a mistake it was to have him and how it ruined her life. Explains a lot about the Doc. Great series if you haven’t seen it.


11 posted on 04/12/2013 5:40:30 AM PDT by Mercat (I'm loving this Pope)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6

And MSN posts this story in its “Living” section. What birdcage-lining trolls they are.


12 posted on 04/12/2013 5:40:54 AM PDT by Tonytitan
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6
Is there a father anywhere in this story?

What she has to say is unpleasant, but it also sounds like this mom could have used some help and a few Mother's Day Outs. The loss of autonomy when one has small children is hard to deal with, and the culture does not value or honor motherhood anymore. They just provide the abortion clinics.

I'm willing to give her the benefit of a doubt, and hope that she finds some support and encouragement, which I think may be what she really wants, but doesn't know how to find it.

13 posted on 04/12/2013 5:43:58 AM PDT by Mamzelle
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Tonytitan

Exactly. This article is the print version of the Jerry Springer show.

I wouldn’t be surprised if it turns out the writer was paid to write an article to an already planned headline.


14 posted on 04/12/2013 5:44:57 AM PDT by delapaz
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 12 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6

There are people to numerous to count who cannot have children and desperately want them. If parenting is too big a burden for this woman, she should give the child up for adoption to someone who would provide the child a loving home.


15 posted on 04/12/2013 5:46:35 AM PDT by randita
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: randita

you want one of the shooters as your kid? How do you think their mothers feel having been sentenced to managing one of them


16 posted on 04/12/2013 5:52:40 AM PDT by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 15 | View Replies]

To: ClearCase_guy
Until we regain the ability to judge the damaged people and say, "You're doing it wrong" our society will not get well.

This is so very right. Thanks for giving me a jolt of common sense to start my day!

17 posted on 04/12/2013 5:55:20 AM PDT by madprof98
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 8 | View Replies]

To: randita

Her first child was five days old when she realized she had made a “mistake”. She should have found a loving couple to raise this child... one that would actually love him. Yet, she went on to have a second child... knowing full well that she had no feelings for the children she brought forth into this world. She is selfish, self absorbed and lacking something in her psyche. I pity her children.. who know the world realizes their own Mother sees them as parasitic and destroyers of her “life”.


18 posted on 04/12/2013 5:56:14 AM PDT by momtothree
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 15 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6

Well, unlike most people on FR, I do sympathize. I never wanted children, I don’t enjoy being around them, and I have no idea why anyone does. Now fortunately for me, I knew this at a very young age. I always said I’d never have kids (and people didn’t believe me, argued with me, scolded me) and I didn’t. I don’t regret it either. It’s a pity she didn’t recognize this about herself earlier in life: some of us are simply not cut out for parenthood. Better to know it and just don’t do it.


19 posted on 04/12/2013 5:56:39 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: traderrob6
My greatest hope for the future lies with whether liberals can successfully stop reproducing as seems their lifelong ambition!
20 posted on 04/12/2013 5:57:34 AM PDT by TexasFreeper2009 (Obama lied .. the economy died.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]


Navigation: use the links below to view more comments.
first 1-2021-4041-45 next last

Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.

Free Republic
Browse · Search
News/Activism
Topics · Post Article

FreeRepublic, LLC, PO BOX 9771, FRESNO, CA 93794
FreeRepublic.com is powered by software copyright 2000-2008 John Robinson