A government big enough to define marriage is big enough to redefine marriage.
I am still torn between advocating for 1. federal government withdrawing from marriage, and 2. fighting to defend marriage at the federal level.
Let's say I live in MA with one husband and one wife. Three people, 2 male, 1 female. We have a child. The wife takes the child and goes to Oklahoma. She won't come back.
How will custody be decided? Is Oklahoma going to extradite the mother and child back to live with 2 homosexual men? I doubt it. As a MA resident, if I want my child back, what recourse do I have?
Notice that I have not used the word "marriage". Who cares if that word is used? We're talking about legal rights (of some sort) that must be defined and protected by some government body. Who will decide where the child will reside?
It's a federal issue. The feds are in the picture no matter what. Deciding that the feds are "out of the marriage business" is just a non-starter. Humans have relationships and humans have rights, and the federal government will be involved in the decision-making.
Doesn't matter what you call it.