Her parents are probably correct. Wait......and see.
” they stopped paying her tuition and demanded she return the $66,000 they had spent”
There is the first problem. Don’t pay her tuition. Kids just don’t get it, if you parent is gullible enough to pay your tuition (especially to a $$$ private school) then they own you, it is an investment and they expect a return, that being success.
I bet this drama started long before college by parents who showered little princess with attention and every material thing she wanted. Now princess wants to grow up but still have mummy and daddy pay the bills.
there is some debate on an earlier thread on if her “civil union” is with a guy or a girl.
She looks too pretty to be one of those. but it is possible.
I have no idea if there’s something wrong with her, but her parents are clearly nutbags.
Isn’t this thread posted already, and brimming with raging nutbaggery?
They should have cut her off at 18, of course
Without success, she will just become another 0bamabot.
When parents can pay for their child’s education, ideally, it’s a gift of love to ensure their child has the best start possible in adulthood, especially given college expenses are so staggeringly high. Unfortunately, some parents believe it’s some license instead to control and abuse their children well into adulthood. Having had similarly crazy parents, I guarantee these two would have continued making their daughter’s life a living Hades until they died or put her in an early grave. Such parents believe their child “owes” them for the rest of their lives - there is no love behind any generosity they extend. It’s all a dangling carrot or a leash.
Could the parents in this case be excessive? Maybe and maybe not. Who better to know their daughter’s “normal” behavior vs one they are now defining as a mental illness. If the parents were such helicopter/controlling people.. why did they agree to let her go away to college (some 600 miles away?).
Reminds me somewhat of a close friend that I have that is dealing with her sophomore aged college daughter. The first year was great... honor roll, etc.. However, this year is diving fast. Poor grades, too much partying and has not lived up to the agreements with her folks (that is, stay on tract with the nursing degree she chose and get a part time job to help with the rent/tuition/car insurance. My friend called me and asked what I thought she should do: I said that there was a verbal contract between the parents and daughter prior to her going away to school. That contract has not been lived up to by the daughter. Thus, bring her home and now before they get the phone call of her in an accident, pregnant, etc.. If they want, enroll her in a community college and have her live at home. My friend’s fear? That she won’t come back ever and cut herself off from the family. So, I think this is a power position by the kid... do it my way or you’ll lose a child. I said: let them live on their own and see what life is really about. Sometimes reality is a far better teacher.
They were within their rights to cut off her funding if she doesn’t live up to their standards, but they are not within their rights to harass her and threaten her like they did.
These aren’t helicopter parents. They’re DRONE PARENTS!
Good for the judge. At 21, it’s harrassment clearly, including the money, used to attempt to control her. Parents do owe their children an education, and it’s generally a sacrifice for most parents. Excelling at university on the parents dime is frosting on the cake. Any moral issues belong, by now, with the daughter. Their job is over.
Did I miss something in this story?
They should send her a letter stating
“Hi honey,
Thanks for the restraining order.
We wanted to send you a copy of our will but you aren’t in it!”
After watching a movie on ted Bundy the other night I can see the parents side on this.
Wait. This girl gets a full scholarship and is a top student and struggles to free herself from a psychotic tyranny imposed by her parents and Freepers are rooting for the parents!? This must be the same sort of insightfulness that won us the Presidential election.
This same thing happened to a friend. The parents were convinced that she was promiscuous because she was out of their sight. They would show up on campus and kidnap her. Finally, her boyfriend (who was a fraternity brother) stepped in. They gave him grief but they backed off because he was a rough guy.
Ironically, he was a virgin and I know she was not.