My heart breaks for prospective parents who have already seen a photo or video of their child/children and now will never be able to adopt them. Speaking from experience, once you’ve seen the picture/video of “your” child, you cling to that image, pray for them, imagine how their lives are now, imagine how they could be in your family...so, for the folks who were adopting, it’s very sad, but let’s not forget the orphans now left in the Russian orphanages. No one is rushing in to adopt these children, no one will be there when they reach the age to leave—no one except those individuals who trick these young orphans into prostitution, sex slaves, worker camps, drug runners, crime gangs, etc. Orphans have NO status in Russia, and these young people are left to their own devices for their survival—and they quickly find out or rediscover it’s a mean, cruel world.
Yes, a lot has gone very wrong with quite a few international adoptions, where both parents and the children have been ill-equipped and/or ill-treated for their new environment. Changes in the adoption process had already been made, but the system is still so messed up (the cultural differences, the judicial differences, etc.) that serious problems still were present.
Very sad...and yes, abortion here in America has virtually eliminated orphanages, and the courts have so negated the adoptive parents’ rights that folks who want children on a permanent basis are going outside the country.
Walk the path of prospective parents and you’ll experience a lot of pain and frustration. We want children so much we go thru hell to get them. Other parents who can conceive on their own don’t go thru background checks, financial checks, in home checks, mental and physical health checks, etc. Imagine if you had to do that just to hold the child you want!
Yeah, the world is very upside down, and it’s definitely not fair. Only God can make good come out of any of this, and believe me, I relied on Him before, during and after our successful Russian adoption. God is definitely my rock!
the courts have so negated the adoptive parents’ rights that folks who want children on a permanent basis are going outside the country.
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The courts have not negated parental rights in legal adoptions.