[Secret Agent Man]

I don’t know what your deal is arguing with me. I’m just stating that almost all states regard property before the marriage as separate, and that the items and money made after they are married as the joint property that needs to be divided. And if they have a prenup that may affect division as well.

You can say all the platitudes you want, but the courts and the laws are set up this way.

And most people who get divorced do not believe they are in a pretend marriage and did go into the marriage “marrying the whole package”. Most people don’t get married with an ultimate goal of getting divorced.

[E. Pluribus Unum]

My point is that when you marry someone with a huge student loan you inherit the burden, whether or not you are legally required to do so. You are totally focused on legalities.

Just because you are not legally required to help your new spouse pay off her loan does not mean that it does not affect you.

She'll be spending time-and-or-money paying off the loan when she could have been contributing to the welfare of your family, either as a stay-at-home mom or a wage earner.