In navigating the real world as it exists, there is no black and white, just varying shades of gray. If one does truly chose to live their life as a black and white purist, they have chosen a cruel task master who in the end will be their undoing.
Then Conservatism is a lost cause, and you would be better off at some other site. After all, Conservatism is a dedication to the idea that certain principles exist and must needfully be preserved. What are principles, except those things which cannot be sacrificed?
'Varying shades of gray', at it's heart, is a tenet of liberalism.
What you call "real" is actually a destructive illusion, a fatal trap.
Here's real reality:
"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light. -- Matthew 11:28-30"Good understanding giveth favour: but the way of transgressors is hard." -- Proverbs 13:15