The only part I sort of followed there was your mention of the Golden Rule. It’s a great rule. And because God would not wish me to throw Him into a pit of fire, I expect he will not do that to me.
Since you've dismissed how a god might communicate to men; thru a book; just how does your god communicate to you what his wishes are or are not?
Sorry; I should have included the reference:
Isaiah 55:8
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD.
Isaiah 29:16 You turn things upside down, as if the potter were thought to be like the clay! Shall what is formed say to him who formed it, "He did not make me"? Can the pot say of the potter, "He knows nothing"?
Isaiah 45:9 "Woe to him who quarrels with his Maker, to him who is but a potsherd among the potsherds on the ground. Does the clay say to the potter, 'What are you making?' Does your work say, 'He has no hands'?