I find it interesting to know that I may have run into my spouse earlier in life than we are aware of. It’s a small world, so I know what you mean.
Take care...
You will find some bad apples, but they are not you. One of my hubbys kin (cousin) ran with Cantrell, whew, hubby not happy. Then I found my g g grandfather was killed by a jealous husband. That evened the score in this house.
Good luck. If you start your genealogy, and need supplies, forms. Just do a search for Genealogy forms,plenty of them on line for free.
I would be willing to bet that in find a grave, your family is already there. Strangers go out into cemeteries and inventory all the graves, then post that info with pics in that site. If you ask them nicely and explain your relationship with the deceased, they will transfer the management of the memorial to you.
Hey, if you need help, just private reply and I can help. Find a Grave is to genealogists as FreeRepublic is to conservatives. That big.