Posted on 02/04/2012 9:13:39 AM PST by jimbo123
While Americans fret over modern parenthood, the French are raising happy, well-behaved children without all the anxiety. Pamela Druckerman on the Gallic secrets for avoiding tantrums, teaching patience and saying 'non' with authority.
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Liberal amounts of absinthe for le kids ?
Thanks jimbo123.
Must be just coincidence.
How can I resist?
Raising little surrender monkeys?
“The French copy no one, and no one copies the French.”
This woman is an idiot and I feel sorry for her children. From the earliest age my children were restaraunt ready. They knew what table manners, inside voives, and Mommy isn’t happy meant.
The fact that this dolt things the French are special....my only comment is go to the southern or western portion (not California which is an entirely different planet) and you will see plenty of well behaved children
Yes but they only make their children bathe once a year, leap year.
I would not go so far as to say that they are superior parents but here in America there is a lot of “the world revolves around me” children that behave badly .......My three sons are now adults and they are great men but I have to admit when they were young......oi vey my eldest in particular was a bad, and no one to blame but us
1. Divorce rates. Children raised by single parents have far greater issues.
2. Over fixation on materialism and dual income parents that neglect the kids.
3. Convenience oriented society that is quick to medicate kids.
4. A society that has lost all concept of personal culpability and responsibility.
5. Over stimulation through MP3 players, PlayStation, the PC, cell phones and TV etc that cause a breakdown in social interactions and even communication skills.
6. A poor public education system that has become a day care center, is amoral/secular, doesn't teach to think nor conveys the basics in science, the humanities etc.
But I'm sure Pfizer will soon have some weird colored pill that will fix everything. lol
I think there’s some truth to this. Perhaps not a “French” thing but I’ve spent a fair amount of time in Sweden, France and Germany and the parents treat their children, even small children, more like little adults. They expect more from them, they don’t indulge them and they talk to them like adults. Their methods aren’t perfect but quite frankly, they are better in my opinion than the “you are special; what do you want” attitudes that American parents have toward their kids. We are raising little terrors who demand and scream for what they want and usually get it from their indulgent parents.
The most terrifying words U.S. parents hear from their kids are “I’m bored”. Once these words are spoken, the average parent is obligated to jump through hoops for their child.
I have very little regard to the French on just about any subject so I agree with you there. But I take offense at your comments about California parents. That is painting w/ a pretty big brush. There are parents from California that do a great job and parents that don't. But that can apply to any state.
In my many, many years of being a parent (now a grandparent), I have worked at schools, w/ home-schoolers, church youth, Boy Scouts troops, and exchange students (host mom x3), so I can can verify that there are a lot of great parents here in California.
There are some good points in the article, and in general American children are screaming brats (I don’t blame the children), but why does France still have to import Muslim fanatics to populate their country if their child rearing is so superior?
Well, absinthe makes the heart grow fonder.
I have seen this progress since the 80s really...maybe even late 70s in progressive environs and urban areas.
It goes without saying the biggest issue is non parenting...no daddy or no mommy especially in black and latino communities and getting worse in lower class whites too who are blending anyhow with the former at breakneck speed with serial illegitimacy between chubby white women and multiple black not in the kid's life sires who are mimicking how they grew up themselves
But the real perplexity to me is how middle and upper class married white couples under 45 raise or raised their kids.
Very very coddling and indulgent...astounding...and often the father is meek and subservient to the mother's henpecking and dominance over child raising in which they follow all the PC mindset...no guns..not even toys, no war,no fighting or rough play, no big dogs, not much outdoor stuff but soccer where mom won't stay off the field...Prius drivers...maybe a Honda CVR if they are more liberated
and so on....papoose daddy...
the first inkling I ever saw this was in 1983 at a young Jewish doctor couple in Albany NY when I was visiting...my girlfriend had gone to Cornell with them...and even both of us were just amazed at the way the mom ran things and they moved at every whim of the kid...to me it was a recipe for a neurotic adult one day...no to say all Jews do this but dominant moms and progressive thinking is not unknown to that culture
that was sorta the progressive footprint for white household parenting which has sure taken hold
now here we are...urban Nashville in the white communities is all just like that now...a copy
only out in the country and in some suburban areas do you see the old ways much
it's awful...
one set of kids unraised
and the others smothered and raised as whiney brats with no spine
what a mess
We solved that one quickly.....when those words were uttered by our children we'd say "Boredom equals choredom" and set them to work.
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