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Stay at home mothers do not have that much more quality time with their children than working mothers. They just think they do because they are in closer proximity to their children.

And that's the point. I work from home, 30 hours a week. My two year old hangs out in a play yard next to me and we play music and I stop and chat with her regularly and get to take her on my errands. If I couldn't work from home I wouldn't work at all - we'd change our lifestyle and live on my husband's salary. Being here all day - knowing when she does something for the first time, or taking a minute to talk about the book she's looking at - is so worth it.

I spent a year and a half as a full-time mommy when she was born before getting a contract. I have to say getting work again made a big difference in my quality of life. I feel smarter and more awake and I don't have the nagging worry about a resume with blank spaces. But I wouldn't put her in daycare for my own fulfillment; I think she needs me here and that will be even more true as time goes on.

I'm working on plans for the next few years, considering options that will let me work or keep intellectually fulfilled while still being home with my daughter. I've only got 16 or so more years before she goes off to school, I want to make the most of it.

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

I believe working mothers are painted with a broad brush as selfish feminists. You obviously are an intelligent woman who has much to offer your family and your profession.

If a child leaves for school at the age of 5 are we really only talking about the first 5 years?