Leaving the children to be raised in a socialistic daycare center, from infants. Wherein "every one is a winner!" Then off to School with little parent involvement.
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I could go on, and on. In this house we have done just fine on one income, and four homeschooled children. I will tell you there are going to be some very happy young men if my girls turn out half as good as my wife.
A stay at home mom is despised because of the purity and truth of her beliefs. Those who refuse the self sacrifice of building a home for others (if life presents them the option) are angry because the wholesomeness of the stay at home mom reproaches them.
That is why our taxes are so high--to force women into the workforce, and help break up the family bonds.
We don't live as well as my salary would indicate. We made the conscious choice for my wife to quit her job and stay at home when our first child was born. As a result of that decision, our family is very close, and our children are well adjusted.
I am “at work” right now. I am about to wash the breakfast dishes and do some preparation work on the project we know as Christmas.
I am very happy with my job. :)
Caring for children is an industry - soon to be unionized - so you know it has to be a profit center.
Many single/divorced women - raising children - work of necessity.
Many single mothers don’t/won’t work because welfare benefits are more lucrative. They don’t raise their children either.
Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. Since maintaining a home (sans children) isn’t what it used to be before the advent of so many modern appliances, and since most of us are not rural any more, it’s not the job that it used to be.
Do you have a comfortable couch I can sleep on for a week or two? I'll be out on the porch, about 10 seconds after I tell her.
I’ve been a stay at home Mom for close to 16 years. Yes... I’ve gotten the comments like , “I thought you were smarter than THAT?!” and “What do you do all day... don’t you see your life as not productive”. That being said, I have also gotten comments from many women that simply have to work that they are envious. They would quit their job in a heart beat if they could afford it. Through the massive amount of taxes, many women don’t really have a “choice” and I personally believe that will hurt our Nation in the long run.
“Is a Woman’s Place at Work? “
Depends on the woman. In Pelosi’s case, definitely NOT - at least not in her current position. But she might make a GREAT fish cleaner in one of those Tuna Fish Packing plants she used to own.
A representative from one of the mainline women's organizations came on campus to give a lecture to the 'women'.....
...it was the usual shrill diatribe that can still be heard...but at the time I was a naive young mom & wife and brought up very conservatively.
But even I could discern the distortions this feminist was spounting.
Included in few of her many ideas....she wanted us to drop our married names.....get a job....and assert our rights!-
---My husband wanted me home taking care of him and our child.
I loved my husband....proud to be his wife, take his name....and I loved motherhood.
But some of the women present and hearing this stuff bought into their propaganda!!
I was a stay at home mom..
...my daughter became a teacher & taught school for 8 years and now she's a stay at home mom....
..Through the years, I, and my daughter... continuing the tradidion.... have joyfully chaperoned school field trips....baked the cupcakes....volunteered at school....we are the ones the teachers and administration knew to call.
The feminists did a hatchet job on the joys ( &frustrations) of wife/mother, IMO!---They honed in on the frustrations and skillfully played those women.
They were not content till women left the home...leaving their children in daycare....and competed with the men.
Many women even at FR will think I'm broadbrushing overstating....and no doubt, might get tarred and feathered by some, even here...
..but I was there at the beginning and I saw the seeds fall.
The feminist movement talks about choice....I made my choice.
I stayed home...honored my husband...and enjoyed the wonderful (& sometimes frustrating) years with my children.....but count it all joy!
But the feminists were using a straw man to bolster their ideas. There were very, very few voices that stated that “a woman's place is in the home” and only a minuscule opinion that “a woman should be barefoot and pregnant”. Those were caricatures developed by feminists so they would have something to fight against.
Consider this: Christianity and Judaism both hold the book of Proverbs as the best resource of wisdom in the scriptures. In Proverbs, there is this description of a good wife:
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An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She looks for wool and flax and works with her hands in delight. She is like merchant ships ; She brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is still night and gives food to her household and portions to her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She senses that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out at night. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hands grasp the spindle. She extends her hand to the poor, and she stretches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household, for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to the tradesmen. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future.
She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: "Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all."
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.
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Note how many things she does that feminists would argue a woman was never allowed to do before they came along. She buys land, manages workers, makes the decisions on how to spend household money, sells products, has a working relationship with men outside her household, and does it all while having children and a husband who loves her.
If you want to see a woman who "has it all", look no further than Proverbs.
HOUSEWORK is WORK, all day long, what crazies they are.
So they would have the woman out "working", and "HIRE" someone to come in a do the house work and a babysitter?
Well then who does the hired housekeeper get to keep her house? Hire herself a housekeeper,babysitter????? ROFL.
I chose to stay at home and raise my 4 children FIRST, then went to work outside the home. My children were the best job I ever had.
How many of you self-righteous stay-at-home mothers take your children to a female doctor? How man of you personally see a female doctor? I’ll bet most of you use a female OB/GYN.
Think about that the next time you bash working mothers!
It’s gotten to the point where a lot of 30 something women I know would have a complete meltdown if they had to spend all day with their own children.
My wife and I decided to have her stay home with the kids. It cost us a very nice retirement. But, our kids were not raised by someone making minimum wage and housed in a building with a dozen other kids being exposed to God knows what.
Everyone has to make their own call. Most people make it out of greed or narcissism . We live in a society that does not value the old, and we dismiss the young as an inconvenience.
That does not bode well for the future of our culture.
I don’t think anyone can honestly say what is best for anyone else. Some mothers stay at home and are truly bad mothers- some work and are great mothers. To each his own, I stayed home until my youngest was in middle school, then worked part-time and was still home when they got home for years. I have no idea if it was the right thing according to many- but it was the right thing for me.
People can argue quality/quantity time with children all they want to- I lean towards quality. I saw too many stay at home moms years ago that focused on cleaning the house better than their neighbors, cooking better than the neighbors, or watching soaps- not focusing on the children at all. My mother kept a tidy house, and cooked great food, but her focus was always on us and it was great. People have an ideal of a stay at home mom in their head but it is not always the reality.
Women should work, fight all our wars and work construction etc. Divorce laws should be changed to favor men. Heck cleaning the house once a week, slapping the dopey kids and shopping is a pretty good gig. I just hope these women who slave all week don't expect sex more than 1 once a week, birthday, valentines day and christmas.
Women staying at home instead of working was a limited trend for a relatively short period of U.S. history, made possible by the post-WWII economy.
I know lots of men who would never admit it... but they want the money the wife brings home.
They like the top-of-the-line SUV instead of the compact.
They like nice vacations.
They like the six-bedroom McMansion instead of the one-story older tract home.
They are just as willing as their wives are to warehouse the kids in daycare, blaming “the economy” or “high taxes.”
All bunk, from both mothers and fathers. They. Want. The. Money.
The kids come second.