I hate to say it, but I have been in this situation before as well.
I had a really good friend that was receiving an eviction notice if she didn’t pay the rent. She asked if I could help her out and that she would pay me when she received her tax return. Mind you it was September/October when I loaned her the money. I gave her enough for 2 months.
I did not tell the husband. This was money I had put aside for an addition I wanted to put on our house. Tax time came and went. In April she expressed to me that she was so tired of living on the edge, she deserved to go on a vacation. She took herself and 2 children to Disney World.
Yep, I felt like such an idiot! But, she did eventually pay me back before the year was out. I never said anything to her since I was the one that put myself in that position in the first place. But, it can happen to anyone.
I think if she hadn’t paid me back, the friendship might have been lost over it. But all is well! Other than I don’t think I’ll lend to her again!
Moral of the story - it happens when you think you are doing the right thing and possibly your partner may not think the same.
You didn’t tell your husband, you harlotte. It’s obvious you need to reevaluate your entire life! LOL!
Just kidding, jcsjcm. And people can see, it’s easy to take these things completely out of context, and blow them up into some mountain of a problem. In the end, it’s what Cain’s wife thinks.
“Moral of the story - it happens when you think you are doing the right thing and possibly your partner may not think the same.”
...well, and don’t keep doing it for thirteen years...