many years ago I lost my finance to Mormonism. I tried and tried to pull him back but I finally had to let go. It still bothers me to this day that I was unable to do more.
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I am so sorry. I was on the other side of that, right after I had joined the LDS, there was this guy I had a crush on, we had been friends since we were toddlers. I had visions of converting him to Mormonism. One day, when I was sharing the LDS gospel with him trying to get him interested (we were in college and he was a Christian), he stopped and looked at me with great sadness and said “I can’t do this, I can’t be friends with you anymore, it hurts me to much to know you are Mormon and headed for Hell”. With that, he turned and walked away. It hurt me deeply, nevertheless I soldiered on as a faithful Mormon but I never forgot his comment or the look on his face. It haunted me.
Years later, after I was on my way out of Mormonism and had moved back to CA from UT, I called him up. He assumed that I had left Mormonism (I hadn’t but was inactive at that point and seriously questioning). He asked me out on a ‘friend date’ and took me to church. He had a huge impact on me and in leading me to the Lord. Next month this childhood friend who would rather lose me than suffer me to be Mormon and I will be married for 16 years.
All we can do is all we can do to reach them. Sometimes we do have to let go and let God work on them. What we do say often resonates years later and witnessing to a Mormon is very much beating your head against a brick wall some days. Keep praying for him, you never know when his eyes will be opened or who will influence him, maybe even something you said will haunt him.
I have to say that I hadn’t planned on taking her to church: that was the night Clinton was elected, and the party was over by the time we got to GOP headquarters. Still, it looks like it worked out for the best! :)
As for your fiance, well, sometimes all we can do is pray. I know it’s hard, but if we really could control the world or other people’s salvation, then Mormonism would be true. Since we’re only human, we have to trust God, instead.