Back in ‘96 a co-worker put his hand on my thigh and started rubbing. I grabbed his middle finger and bent it backwards until he apologized. (Accidentally dislocated it.) I talked to him the way I would a disobedient kid. “Had enough yet? Are you done with your nonsense? Good. Now apologize and promise to never do it again.”
He thought it was great. He told the whole office. I got a slow clap and the issue was over.
The message was sent. I was faithful to my husband. Don’t even think about it.
*That* is how a real woman handles sexual harassment. I didn’t cry or put or press charges or act offended. heck, I didn’t even get mad at the time of the incident. There was an issue and I put an end to it. When you do these thing, YOU make yourself into a victim. I am not a victim.
And the cool part is that the work relationship wasn’t hurt in the process. He respected me and I let the incident go. Nobody else in the office ever tried to hit on me again.
No fuss. Too easy.
Women have become disempowered by the ‘victim movement’. We’ve forgotten the gold ol’fashioned slap across the face. A guy feels us up and we don’t feel like we have the right to say the words, “Knock it off” or “I’m not interested.”
Now grown women have been reduced to trembling little girls. Now we use like ‘uncomfortable’ and ‘offended’.
Well, if I’m uncomfortable, I’ll move. If a guy pushes me far enough to become offended, I’ll put an end it.
I agree. I have handled the issue in the same way. Sexual harassment is also used to obtain money settlements....always follow the money. My earlier comment was that sexual harassment is used when the woman isn’t interested in the guy. Otherwise, it’s considered flirtation.