Wow, a lady can never see another man after a divorce or death of a husband because the man will kill them. Are you serious? I have three step-sons who at one point were introduced to me and they are all still alive.
Like friggin' heart attack, Mr. Ratman. I'm joyful your situation is a happy one. That usually is the case with normal, STABLE individuals. Sadly, we read and hear all too often of kids who start having kids young, no stable home life and no regular good male influence. Just a series of drunken and/or drug addled "boyfriends" who have no interest in the kids and eventually lose their cool with them because they are a glaring reminder that their love monkey was plooking someone else before them. THAT is where my remark was aimed. I'm sure you knew that.
For the record I lost my husband when my kids were young. It never occurred to me to run out and find another man. I didn't want to "replace" their daddy who loved them with all his might.