“And she’ll need someone with her 24 hours a day.”
My wife and I have taken care of my mother, who has very advanced Alzheimer’s, for the past eight and one half years. She has outlived all of the early predictions of her death by almost five years now, is bed ridden, and cannot communicate except by her wonderful smile and the occasional pat on the hand of the person feeding her.
Five years ago, we took advantage of a “respite” program that the local hospice offered and put mother in a nursing home for four days while we took a very short, belated “honeymoon”. When we came back, Mom had been starved almost to death. After that, we made the decision together that she would be with us and we with her, no matter her condition, until she died.
In most cases, our parents put their love for their children ahead of their own personal wants and desires for many years. Why should they not be honored by us in their decline by knowing that we are going to be there for them as they walk their last mile?
Your post made me cry, Big Harry. The love, compassion, sympathy and kindness that you are showing your Mother is amazing and admirable. You are a wonderful son and your wife is an angel.
God love ya, Big_Harry!
Thank you. My own 84 yo father has recently come to live with us. He has slight dementia and really doesn’t want to be with us 24/7, but he forgets to eat, forgets to take his meds, forgets to put his milk and eggs back in the fridge, etc.
I miss my strong daddy. He deserves all the love and care I can give to him at this time. He’d do it for me in a heartbeat.
Bless you. I feel the same and want to personally care for my parents. They keep telling me they don’t want to burden us (and luckily we are not near that day where a decision must be made).
However, I personally don’t want to be a burden on my kids. It’s weird. I dint want to br in a nursing home but I also don’t want to give any of my kids the many years of loving care you’ve provided, with no escape. It’s tough.
What a good man you are. God bless you.
Back in the day before total liberal take over, that was pretty standard.
But then along came the Femi-nazis and the ‘liberation’ of
women, the
Roe v Wade decision which cheapened all life as we knew it, and we’ve been sliding down that slippery slope ever since.
*hat tip* Sir...