Bless you. I feel the same and want to personally care for my parents. They keep telling me they don’t want to burden us (and luckily we are not near that day where a decision must be made).
However, I personally don’t want to be a burden on my kids. It’s weird. I dint want to br in a nursing home but I also don’t want to give any of my kids the many years of loving care you’ve provided, with no escape. It’s tough.
I have MS, and I've already informed my family, if I cannot take care of myself (to some degree) I will check myself into a facility. No way I will put my family in the position, financially or emotionally, of caring for me if I'm completely disabled by the disease. Hopefully that day never comes, and I won't face the decision, but I will not hesitate to do it if I reach that level of disability. The only caveat...if we win the lotto and can pay for a full time caregiver...then I'd stay at home :)
One of my daughters, the rebellious one, said that she was going to take care of me in my old age. To get even for all of the “I told you so” moments, her plan is to paint my toe nails pink, put me in a pink gown and push my wheelchair around the mall. LOL!