Anyway, I don't want to make this a pity-party post, rather, with the previous data as some evidence of my bona fides to opine authoritatively on the topic, I sincerely believe that the parents of this deceased child deserve to have their genitalia removed with pliers, to ensure they will not be afforded any more opportunities for failed experiments in parenting.
Dead serious.
;-\
“I used to be awakened to a strap across my bare butt...”
Not a pity party, Gargantua, but prayers your way for the treatment you endured. I hope you stay strong, courageous, and kind. Your Father didn’t deserve the blessing of a son.
One of my kids used to wet the bed too. Hello, plastic mattress cover. Just keep doing the sheets. Eventually they outgrow it. Don’t shame them at all, it’s not done on purpose.
He asked me if my son, when he need to pee, would dance around, like most kids, before finally giving up play and go.
I said no, that as soon as he had to go, he went.
The doc said: “Don't let him. Make him hold it for a bit.”
The problem was that that by not doing the pee- dance, the bladder hadn't stretch out to overnight capacity.
The “treatment” worked like a charm.
Let's just say I got the hell out of there as soon as I could. I too, have no need for pity, but I do wish you to know that I really understand where you're coming from. I also fully concur with with your suggested course of action regarding the parents of this poor child.