You can thank the so-called “pastor” Rick Warren and the church’s nearly wholesale adoption of his pernicious and totally unbiblical “Purpose Driven Church” philosophy of mininstry for much of what you have so aptly said has been taking place within the church.
I completely agree. It's heartbreaking how Southern Baptist Churches have swallowed his lie wholesale. My dear mother, a Godly woman, gave me a copy that was handed out at her SB Church several years ago when the popularity of the "seeker-sensitive" malarkey was just gaining steam. I only got through the first couple of chapters before warning bells started going off. Warren has overwhelmingly confirmed my suspicions since then.
I always cleanse such warped theology out of my mind with a good dose of Scripture, and then maybe some of the writings of A.W. Tozer.