My main point about this is establishing a genuine separation between church and state. Although I have a hard time understanding how some things are unique to marriage. For instance, I have joint-healthcare benefits with my parents. I signed it out, because frankly, Ms. Wonderful has not come around for me to marry just yet, that’s fine. I would also like to wonder how hospital visits are denied when all I had to do was sign in to visit my friend, also a guy, as well in the hospital. This person is not any romantic interest or spouse of mine, not by a long shot. I would also mention that the hospitals in Delaware let me drop by and visit my then-girlfriend who I was not married to either at that time. I did have to sign in and out to let them know I was there at that time, but they didn’t vastly care about whether or not I was the spouse of either of these people. I can write a will out to pretty much anyone who can agree to it, even though I am unmarried as of yet as well. SO that is the point, inheritance, healthcare, and hospital visits I can do with someone to whom I am not married, I just have a real problem understanding what is going on here? As far as businesses go, let them pass what policies they may, let other nonprofit or “religious” groups do as they may, because in the end, it’s to their benefit or loss.
I will say that I only agree on the secession part, primarily because secession does not solve anything, plus I also doubt any state is without its’ major cities, which have their own significant voting population.
All the reasons put forward by homosexual activists to prove why they should be allowed to “marry” someone of the same sex are bogus red herrings. As you indicated, they already have many of these “rights” available to them, just as anyone else does. What they want is official affirmation of their sexual practices, which “marriage” would give them in spades. This is why the fight is critical not only to deny the redefinition of marriage to include that which is not, but also civil unions and other official government-recognized forms of domestic partnership.