Posted on 05/03/2011 1:05:03 PM PDT by wagglebee
NEW YORK, May 3, 2011 (LifeSiteNews.com) - Kassi Underwood’s life after abortion is one that no one would envy.
But in an op-ed for the New York Daily News on Monday, Underwood, a writer based in New York, explained how she still refuses to judge abortion despite enduring immense grief after having ended the life of her baby.
In the piece, entitled “Get your politics off my grief after abortion,” Underwood notes that groups such as the American Psychological Association have claimed that post-abortion syndrome does not exist - but this has not stopped her from feeling acutely the loss of her missing baby.
In an account that echoes the documented grief of countless other post-abortive women, such as those at Silent No More Awareness, Underwood says that three years after her abortion she began to have nightmares about babies, and missed her “potential child” while awake. “It was bewildering that I could feel so mournful about a decision that was supposed to buttress the architecture of my identity,” wrote Underwood.
“It felt traitorous to admit that, far from thinking I had expelled a ‘blob of cells,’ I now wondered who that person I aborted would have been.”
Underwood indicated that the experience of immediate “relief” following the abortion procedure promised by pro-abortion Guttmacher Institute’s analysis of the post-abortive experience was not as simple as might appear to the uninitiated.
“It was the kind of relief I have felt after losing someone to a prolonged battle with cancer: grateful the suffering had ended, but sorry my loved one had to go,” she noted.
Seeking refuge in the pro-choice movement offered little help for Underwood: “Emotions, I learned, could be regarded as a chink in the pro-choice armor,” she said. The writer also complained of a political angle at a Catholic Rachel’s Vineyard retreat she eventually attended, accusing directors of turning retreatants into “political instruments” by urging them to tell Congress how abortion had hurt them.
Underwood says she eventually settled in a movement that encourages women to speak about abortion, but without judging whether the procedure is morally right or wrong.
“Here’s a right I’d march for: the right to wail myself to sleep, to yearn for my long gone baby, yet to know that I needed to delay parenthood,” Underwood concluded. “Transcending heartache is possible as long as I keep my story unabridged - and out of the political sphere.”
Her unhappiness isn’t a measure of the right or wrong of abortion, but the REASON for her unhappiness is.
The reason for her grief is that she realizes the truth that she had a human being killed, not a “blob of cells removed”.
She could have “delayed parenthood”, ie, the responsibilities thereof, by putting her child up for adoption.
Truly sad what we do to our young women and or babies in this country. The suffering just goes on. This young woman needs to know that her baby is in heaven and God loves her and she’s forgiven. God commands us to forgive and that includes our selves. Now she needs to forgive herself. Satan is out to kill steal and destroy and he will bash this young woman over the head, over and over again, until it destroys her. Does she need time to grieve? Yes, but, at some point she needs to move on. If she knows Jesus, she’ll see her baby again. In heaven people don’t age like they do on earth. She will be able to raise her child when she gets to heaven.
Right now, I would rather be....
A) Kassi
-or-
B) Her baby
She isn't forgiven as she has not asked for forgiveness. She will be held to account for her actions, as we all will. She remains unrepentant and defiant that her actions were anything but self serving and evil.
Her actions where incredibly selfish and they continue to be selfish. It is all about her and her feelings. That is the problem with the World today.
>>Women who place a child for adoption often also experience grief, and yet they have done a right rather than a wrong act.<<
We as conservatives need to push the idea that the most selfless thing a mother can do for her child is to give it away when she cannot provide all that a child needs.
It is not the same grief and we must make that clear. One is a self-centered grief. A grief for the loss of one’s mother role. The other is the grief at the loss of a human being, one’s own baby. A “birth mother” of an adoptive baby doesn’t have to live through that.
Or at least come reasonably close, given that none of us ever provides *all* a child needs. I agree ... and I agree with your second point as well. There's all the difference in the world between killing your child and giving him the best opportunity in life you can, even if it's with other parents.
We also, as conservatives, or simply as people who care about children, need to emphasize that people should not have sex if they're not reasonably capable of being parents *right now*.
Ms Underwod that is guilt you are feeling and you know in your soul that what you did is wrong.Until you admit that it will haunt you until the day you die.
She isn’t admitting she was wrong so until she does there is no forgiveness from G-D.
Yea, after reading all the way to the bottom I noticed that. Maybe she’ll come around. Until she does, she will have no rest.
Yep, your right, if she doesn’t ask for forgiveness she can’t be forgiven.
Sorry, JMHO
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So, three years after her abortion, she realized the “fetus” was a person.
I can understand her desire not to judge other women, or to support pro-life, I was the same way for years after mine.
If she is feeling this now, she may yet come to the truth.
>>We also, as conservatives, or simply as people who care about children, need to emphasize that people should not have sex if they’re not reasonably capable of being parents *right now*. <<
Amen, Amen, Amen......!!!!!!
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What point are we missing? She may have gone there, but what did she take away from the experience? See below:
"Seeking refuge in the pro-choice movement offered little help for Underwood: “Emotions, I learned, could be regarded as a chink in the pro-choice armor,” she said. The writer also complained of a political angle at a Catholic Rachel’s Vineyard retreat she attended, accusing directors of turning retreatants into “political instruments” by urging them to tell Congress how abortion had hurt them.
Underwood says she eventually settled in a movement that encourages women to speak about abortion, but without judging whether the procedure is morally right or wrong."
Not much.
So, women are supposed to kill without remorse.
Apparently.
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