The answer is that the Americans were outside of the real events. The Euros had no confidence and excluded the untrustworthy Obama. It was only very recent that he was allowed into the picture.
The ongoing negotiations with Quadaffi went sour and the plans changed. At that point, Obama was allowed to participate.
If I were the European military, I would not share my plans with Obama, since there is a better than even chance he will have a diplomat negotiate with Daffy Duck and in the process “inadvertently” disclose future military plans.
I would tell Obama how it went after it was completed and the troops are back in the barn.