I took Tae Kwon Do for 4 years; got to my 1st Brown before I had to quit (braces on teeth and hand-to-hand combat don’t mix well).
You did the girl an injustice. Martial arts are a skill of deflecting a blow before the ‘power’, and re-directing it. Block, counter-attack, ect. When you spar, the object is NOT to hurt your partner; that’s why contact stops at the skin (Red Stripe on belt in my discipline). It’s about control.
By holding back - you gave her a ‘false sense of security’ that could get her badly hurt by an opponent who truly means her harm. The only thing worse than jumping out of an airplane without a parachute, is jumping with one that doesn’t work. On the flip side, women have a speed and very narrow target range for scoring points in the midsection. Below boobs, above belt - it’s a small target. So, you kinda missed a challenging contest yourself.
My partner, Laurie was well endowed. Kicking her chest was simply rude, so the training was to get a kick in to touch her stomache and get out before she could counter. She was skilled, and very good. Sex shouldn’t stop you from teaching and learning from each other. Hand-wise; she was much faster than I - so I learned to block fast punches; as well as fight someone faster and smaller than I.
Any woman, deserves to truly know what her abilities are; because her life may depend upon that skill at some point in time.
After all, isn’t the point of this discipline to compete against what the best you think you can be? It’s not to defeat your opponent, but to measure yourself against what you once were, and where you want to go. Every day, the goal is to go to bed smarter than you were when you woke up.
I thought I made it clear I had done her wrong. She wasn’t going to learn to block and evade if she didn’t hit hard enough times to get sick of it and learn how to protect and attack.
I don’t care to fight and I don’t want to do contact sports with a girl. It will never be fair.
I am genetically predisposed with muscles and a skeletal frame she won’t have, ever. Moreover, I ain’t just plain good, I am very competitive.
Wanna play board games, run a race or whatever, fine. I’ll go all out.
I just don’t want hitting a girl the same as I would a man on my conscience, even if we are wearing all that protective gear.
You can’t exactly leg sweep a girl. You could seriously injure their legs and cause a deformity. I like their legs too much to do that.
I don’t to break a rib or an arm or anything on them.
I just want to admire their form over drinks and some conversation.
As far control, sure and stopping at the skin but it ain’t the same against guys. We go all out and sometimes stuff happens. Just part of being a guy and playing guy games.
And yeah, I couldn’t kick her or any other girl in the chest. Couldn’t conceive of drilling em in the chest with a strong right. You have less targets on them as well.
Believe me Kong scolded me on more than one occassion for not sticking it them and said I was going to get “whooped” by a bunch of girls in a bar. (So damn funny hearing him say “whooped” and every time he said it I would laugh or smile. He once demanded “You think that’s funny”. I started laughing and said “Yep. That’s why I keep coming back. Cuz you’re a great teacher”. He just looked at me and said “Oh? And you know how to kiss my ? and he slapped his ass)
The whole class was laughing and he tried to get serious and then he bowled over hands on knees trying to control himself but was laughing to hard.
Took us about two minutes to get back to class after a couple of fits and starts of laughing.
As for the rest of your post I completely agree:
“Any woman, deserves to truly know what her abilities are; because her life may depend upon that skill at some point in time.
After all, isn’t the point of this discipline to compete against what the best you think you can be? It’s not to defeat your opponent, but to measure yourself against what you once were, and where you want to go. Every day, the goal is to go to bed smarter than you were when you woke up.”
I am just probably not the guy to teach that. But I won’t get “Whooped” by a bunch of girls in a bar, unless they’re all HOT and it feels good.