I think there is a difference in some cases.
For example, a REPORTER who KNOWINGLY puts him/herself into a potential Infidel-slaughter or rape-circle is very much in the wrong.
A SOLDIER, police officer, fireman etc who puts him/herself in harms way probably IS thinking about his/her kids and the kids are likely a motivating factor.
Not entirely sure I can stomach the “she knew what she was getting into” or “she deserved it cuz” line of thought, however. I think she really DID buy into the bull from the Left and probably never saw that coming.
I don't think she "deserved it" either; however, personal responsibility comes into play here. If she bought the "lefts bull", then the actions happening in Egypt (American correspodents being attacked prior) should have been warning enough.