The best answer for a counselor to give such a client (whose sexual desires are being repressed—oh such a tough situation in today’s world when according to TV a human is supposed to be akin to a guppy) is this: “God knows your struggle and your pain. It is best to remain single and devote yourself to God’s work, but if you are worried about committing sexual sin, pray and God will find you a wife (or husband as the case may be) but you will have trouble in that relationship.” All Biblical.
Watch the You Tubes of Bishop Sheen. At the end of each of our lives either Satan will be there to claim you or Jesus will be there to you; “Mine.” It is very riveting.
So basically, there is no secular.
If you read through or listen to the New Testament, time and time again, the prohibition of sexual sin is repeated. It is not enough to be kind and generous and continue to sin sexually. A person must do it all.
So Gondring, I do not know what your deal is, only that your ideas are very fluid, shall I say. Further study is what I recommend.
Sorry I can’t explain now, as I’ve evidently not explained my point well. And please read my comments in reference to this specific story...not homosexuality in general. And I’m not saying homosexuality is Biblical, nor that there’s no free will to avoid certain behaviors.