You are right -- there is no guarantee that it won't be stilted by some wonk leftist group, nor is there any guarantee that it won't be stilted by a very conservative military tradition -- which is what the Libs will accuse them of if it doesn't turn their way. I said that I wanted to hear what they had to say, not that I'd hang on every word or believe any or all of it.
You have no guarantee that your "pink swastika" doesn't exist now. There are currently gays serving in the military, even if we don't know who they are.
I am not trying to change your mind. You have already made up your mind to the point that it is beyond changing. I am simply expressing an opinion that is different from yours, although I suspect ultimately not as different as you'd think.
My education is in Behavioral Science and I understand your desensitization point very well. The problem is that this desensitization has already taken place. If it hadn't, you wouldn't have some of the most popular shows on TV featuring gay characters-- people would be screaming for the networks to take them off the air -- but they aren't.
You have to start from where you are & move forward to neutralize the issue. You can't go backward 25 years & expect people to follow.