the time the kids could understand, I preached to them the important of getting a good education, a good job and becoming independent. They knew they could count on their father & I IF they needed us, but we would not provide a permanent home for capable adults.
I will never understand parents who do not raise their kids to be independent. It is our job to instill a sense of right/wrong and that the world will not just hand them a job, nor should they expect NOT to work and allow others to provide for them (welfare).
Worth repeating.
I am not heartless nor uncaring. For my family (immediate/extended), for friends, for society I readily extend a temporary 'safety net'. A net to catch them due to a hard fall and to bode them over some 'hard times'.
But for far too many members of our society that 'safety net' has evolved into a permanent 'hammock'. A hammock to now cocoon you from cradle to grave.
Then again, how do some of these parents raise their kids to be independent whereas the parents have become "dumb', 'depressed', 'dependent', and "Democrat' due to the governments "Great Society" hammock?
Stopping this will take years, if it ever can be done. Johnson's great society has been a huge mistake and is just evil where it destroyed the importance of marriage and rewarded us with the permanent welfare state, from birth to death, generation to generation.