It's a little complicated, and this isn't my area of law so my answer probably won't be as precise as it should be, but they really aren't significantly different.
When you buy a movie, a book or music DVD, you are agreeing to an implicit license - that license it allows you to enjoy your Book/CD/DVD so long as you enjoy it yourself, or in the privacy of your own home. The implicit license does not allow you to play that CD/DVD in a commercial setting - like at a bar or club (unless you've paid ASCAP or BMI fees). That is the limitation of the license. Nor, are you allowed to copy that CD/DVD or book - again, another limitation of the implicit license.
The software license is an expressly articulated license. The buyer, upon purchase and installation of the software, agrees (enters into contract) to behave in a certain way. If the buyer does not wish to behave in a certain way, he does not have to buy and install the software.
Since I haven't familiarized myself with the relevant case law, I may be wrong here, but I don't believe its disallowed to resell unopened software. IOW, I could buy MS Office from Best Buy, and then sell it to you so long as the box is unopened. So, in the strictest sense, just like with movies/cds, I can resell software. I just can't resell it after installation.
ASCAP and BMI only handle the MUSIC publishing rights. You'll need to be up on your ASCAP and BMI fees in a bar even if you just put the television on (argument is that a song they "own" could be played on a video, tv commercial, or on tv show or movie). The movie owner is still not authorizing you to play the movies in a bar.
Note that CDs don't have a disclaimer "for private use only unless you are up on BMI/ASCAP fees....
If I recall, most software has a seal, that reads if you open this seal, you are agreeing to the license agreement, so now I guess all you have to do is read the warning on the seal, which means every box of software I pick up from the store shelf is now unsalable. Cool.
The death of common sense leads to this nonsense.