They are actually my friends. I work in theatre, and hence have many, many close friends who are gay and therefore I don’t choose to engage in the militant homophobia that often raises its ugly head on this site, as I am pretty sure I have more close gay friends than nearly anyone else around these parts.
I have a few. I've actually found that some of them understand my reasoning when I tell them I don't want to change the definition of marriage. One of my own personal reasons is, if we change it for them, we'll quickly be under pressure to change it for others. Just imagine the health insurance nightmares for employers if Muslims get polygamy allowed in the States.
Having homosexuals as co-workers does not make one competent to judge their parenting skills. To make such a judgment one must be in a position to follow the children over a long period of time and objectively evaluate many different factors. Even though most studies of homosexual parenting have built-in biases, certain negative effects have nonetheless come to light - including sexual orientation confusion. This alone can seriously disrupt normal childhood development.
The term “militant homophobia” is often used to refer to anyone who voices opposition to the gay agenda. However, it is the gay activists themselves who are “militantly” opposed to and “intolerant” of the traditional understanding of marriage and the family.
Have you honestly considered whether your homosexual co-workers are happy in their lifestyle? The research clearly indicates that homosexuals are at much higher risk for emotional and psychological illness, including suicide. The best research is also controlled for so-called perceived hatred by heterosexuals - i.e., it is not the result of the lack of societal affirmation. In fact, some countries which are the most “gay friendly” in their public policy and social attitudes, have the most unhappy homosexual populations.
I once did a research paper on the negative health effects of homosexuality, which catalogued literally dozens of diseases that are rampant in the gay community, some of them incurable. One study indicated that the lifespan of homosexuals is up to 20 years less than heterosexuals, again as the result of behavior-based disease.
Is - I ask you - the mere pointing out of such facts, and the questioning whether such a lifestyle ought to be granted full affirmation and even promoted by society, to be considered “militant homophobia”? Are we not then guilty of the biblical warning regarding those who “call good evil - and evil good”?