I’d have to find HIM first....he hasn’t cared to find me since I was a child. Frankly, I just don’t care.
You know, it may well be that he was afraid to find out what kind of father he could be or just plain afraid. I left my son and his mother not long after he was born and for a long while only saw him during the summers. Then came a period when I didn’t see him much at all. I had no excuse for it, but I was afraid, I think, of the responsibility and the commitment. He was born after I came home from RVN. Later, at about the time of his (first) marriage, I did go back and we reconciled. But we both made the effort and it worked. It could work for you, but only after you really think about it a lot!
You know, it may well be that he was afraid to find out what kind of father he could be or just plain afraid. I left my son and his mother not long after he was born and for a long while only saw him during the summers. Then came a period when I didn’t see him much at all. I had no excuse for it, but I was afraid, I think, of the responsibility and the commitment. He was born after I came home from RVN. Later, at about the time of his (first) marriage, I did go back and we reconciled. But we both made the effort and it worked. It could work for you, but only after you really think about it a lot!