Posted on 07/18/2010 7:42:32 AM PDT by GOPsterinMA
When someone close to me had a nasty hateful divorce, the lawyer of the X ran up the bill to thousands of dollars and this was going to be another way the shaft the male...needless to say at the end of the divorce the X had to pay her own lawyer. Her lawyer was not expecting that as its usually the guy that get to pay for both lawyers in some states..
:O) good kids are a blessing..
In that case with evidence to back up physical abuse, ie: hospital records the abuser should lose everything...
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Then you’ll have the one that wants out trying like hell to bait the other one into hitting - if successful, the one that wants out is granted the divorce and gets everything. It would be a little risky to do that, though. You can push a man or a woman TOO far and land in the morgue instead of the ER.
Leave it Beaver had stay at home wife. My wife, of almost 40 years only stayed at home for short periods after the two kids were born. Not long after the second one, she started work on her doctorate. She's also supported us my last two years of college and while I got my masters a few years later. She's now the chair of a small college's teacher education department.
We had a rough period. She moved out, but we worked through it, went to counseling, and are still married. Now we've survived over 11 years of "commuter marriage", living in separate cities due to work considerations. (We are sick of it, fortunately her job allows us to at least live together when school is not in session) It can be done. I think people get to the rough period, and just give up. To hell with how it affects the kids.
Now that said, I know several people who finally made a good go of it, after 2 or 3 tries. But for the most part, they either had no children, or the separations were amiable enough that the children's suffering was minimized. One couple, former couple that is, helped organize our "turning 60" class reunion, part of which was held at their son's restaurant. :). They still consider themselves friends.
But then there is also the couple who were Junior High. sweethearts, married soon after high school, and are still married, 40+ years later. Their two kids are each two years younger than our two. She was the youngest looking lady at the reunion.
An action verb, not just a status or being verb. :)
Yes, then there is my ex, who walked away from a mid six figure salary to live in a trailer and drink. I went from at home mother of four to working mom with a jumbo mortgage, and lots to juggle. I worked six days a week for seven years to make it work and homeschooled the kids.
My alimony? zip
My child support? 720 per month for four children
My ex turned to drugs, booze, lots of partying. She’s still on drugs to this day. I feel for you.
It has been a long walk
I have two left at home, 400 in Child support and I am finally able to lift my head up.
If I can pay off the mortgage soon I would feel more secure.
Texas sure seems like the place to be. They sure seem to have their act together.
absolutely an action verb! It is a way of behaving, of acting toward others.
And sometimes it isn’t easy, but it is always necessary. And, no score board is needed!
Sweet! Good to see success stories!
One more reason to NEVER marry in the People’s Republic of Massiveshitstan.
That’s a wonderful idea sportutegrl!
Bad memory, it's the drugs, I swear. (But I took the last pill last night, so the memory should be improving).
In reality they married just over 2 years out of high school, and only 3 months before we did. :)
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