So true. And throws it away for what was I’m sure empty sex. So sad. So selfish. This happened to me with my ex who’s a surgeon. Now my daughter has no father, a broken family, & I’m all alone trying to work while raising a kid. And he’s not even with the woman anymore. What pisses me off are these men who make families & fell no sense of obligation to stick by their committments. Then I hear people like Ann Coulter (who I do love but she pissed me off) say that single mothes are the problem with our country. Really? I didn’t ask to be a single mother. Some loser man made it that way for me.
When will people learn?
Now, c'mon - she wasn't talking about people in your situation, she was talking about deadbeats. You know, women who purposely get pregnant just to get the gov't check. THOSE women, not you.
So sad to hear your situation. Hang in there! The same thing happened to my sister. Her husband bailed on her and their 4 kids. Several friends had the same thing happen. As well as my mother-in-law, my step-mom with her first husband...it’s pretty common, unfortunately.
Also unfortunate is the lack of any sort of sympathy from many Freepers on this subject. Many guys here usually blame the woman for her husband leaving (there must have been *something* she was - or wasn’t doing for him), or that women are psycho so the husband bailed, or that the courts are stacked in favor of the woman no matter what and the man didn’t actually bail - the wife just makes it appear that he did for custody. Or all of the above. A very one-sided, knee-jerk view.
Just an FYI and welcome to FreeRepublic.
I’m sure Ms. Coulter would be very supportive of you but have some choice words for your ex. Welcome to Free Republic. There are some very caring people here, many of whom have been in your shoes. I hope you find comfort and guidance from them.
Sounds to me with a mother like you your daughter doesn’t need a father. My father bailed on my mother and I when I was 15. She struggled to support the two of us, but helped me through college. Because of her I am a successful person and I think a better mother to my own daughter. Because of her too, I am going to instill in my daughter she needs to be able to take care of herself and any children she has because it’s like you said, not all single mothers chose that path.
I know it’s hard, but keep your chin up and don’t ever doubt yourself.
I can empathize with your situation as the same thing happened to me. Hang in there! Oh, and welcome to FR!
To Tiki Barber I say, karma’s a b*tch!
I think Ann was referring to the circumstance of single motherhood, and not a specific individual. Certainly it takes (at least) two to make a single mother, and our society has made that circumstance much more acceptable, or even celebrated than it has ever been before. I think Ann's criticisms were levelled every bit as much at legislators who passed no-fault divorce laws, vulture lawyers who profit from the break-up of families, a media culture that glamorizes infidelity and sexual libertinism, and runaway dads as they were at moms who deliberately or through the exercise of loose morals and poor judgment, put themselves in that position.