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To: iowamark

So true. And throws it away for what was I’m sure empty sex. So sad. So selfish. This happened to me with my ex who’s a surgeon. Now my daughter has no father, a broken family, & I’m all alone trying to work while raising a kid. And he’s not even with the woman anymore. What pisses me off are these men who make families & fell no sense of obligation to stick by their committments. Then I hear people like Ann Coulter (who I do love but she pissed me off) say that single mothes are the problem with our country. Really? I didn’t ask to be a single mother. Some loser man made it that way for me.

When will people learn?


17 posted on 06/23/2010 8:28:35 AM PDT by surroundedbyblue
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To: surroundedbyblue
"Then I hear people like Ann Coulter (who I do love but she pissed me off) say that single mothes are the problem with our country."

Now, c'mon - she wasn't talking about people in your situation, she was talking about deadbeats. You know, women who purposely get pregnant just to get the gov't check. THOSE women, not you.

34 posted on 06/23/2010 8:36:47 AM PDT by jackibutterfly
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To: surroundedbyblue

So sad to hear your situation. Hang in there! The same thing happened to my sister. Her husband bailed on her and their 4 kids. Several friends had the same thing happen. As well as my mother-in-law, my step-mom with her first husband...it’s pretty common, unfortunately.

Also unfortunate is the lack of any sort of sympathy from many Freepers on this subject. Many guys here usually blame the woman for her husband leaving (there must have been *something* she was - or wasn’t doing for him), or that women are psycho so the husband bailed, or that the courts are stacked in favor of the woman no matter what and the man didn’t actually bail - the wife just makes it appear that he did for custody. Or all of the above. A very one-sided, knee-jerk view.

Just an FYI and welcome to FreeRepublic.


43 posted on 06/23/2010 8:44:22 AM PDT by coop71 (Being a redhead means never having to say you're sorry...)
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To: surroundedbyblue
single mothes are the problem with our country. Really? I didn’t ask to be a single mother.

Like Dr. Laura, I suspect that Miss Coulter was referring to those who bore children without benefit of marriage. You are no more a "single mother" than is any widow with minor children.
45 posted on 06/23/2010 8:46:45 AM PDT by Dr. Sivana (There is no salvation in politics)
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To: surroundedbyblue

I’m sure Ms. Coulter would be very supportive of you but have some choice words for your ex. Welcome to Free Republic. There are some very caring people here, many of whom have been in your shoes. I hope you find comfort and guidance from them.


46 posted on 06/23/2010 8:50:47 AM PDT by Pan_Yan
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To: surroundedbyblue

Sounds to me with a mother like you your daughter doesn’t need a father. My father bailed on my mother and I when I was 15. She struggled to support the two of us, but helped me through college. Because of her I am a successful person and I think a better mother to my own daughter. Because of her too, I am going to instill in my daughter she needs to be able to take care of herself and any children she has because it’s like you said, not all single mothers chose that path.

I know it’s hard, but keep your chin up and don’t ever doubt yourself.


52 posted on 06/23/2010 9:03:55 AM PDT by MissEdie (America went to the polls on 11-4-08 and all we got was a socialist thug and a dottering old fool.)
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To: surroundedbyblue

I can empathize with your situation as the same thing happened to me. Hang in there! Oh, and welcome to FR!

To Tiki Barber I say, karma’s a b*tch!


54 posted on 06/23/2010 9:05:48 AM PDT by slugbug (A taxpayer voting for Barack Obama is like a chicken voting for Colonel Sanders.)
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To: surroundedbyblue
"Then I hear people like Ann Coulter (who I do love but she pissed me off) say that single mothes are the problem with our country."

I think Ann was referring to the circumstance of single motherhood, and not a specific individual. Certainly it takes (at least) two to make a single mother, and our society has made that circumstance much more acceptable, or even celebrated than it has ever been before. I think Ann's criticisms were levelled every bit as much at legislators who passed no-fault divorce laws, vulture lawyers who profit from the break-up of families, a media culture that glamorizes infidelity and sexual libertinism, and runaway dads as they were at moms who deliberately or through the exercise of loose morals and poor judgment, put themselves in that position.

65 posted on 06/23/2010 9:22:32 AM PDT by Joe 6-pack (Que me amat, amet et canem meum)
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To: surroundedbyblue
Sorry about your all troubles. I would like to tell you a story though and maybe it will give you some encouragement, hope so.
After I decided to get a divorce from my husband (my son's step father) I sat and had a nice long talk with my 18 yo son. We have always been close because he only had me for so long. Well, during our talk and listening to him talk about how he knew he would not be able to sit around much longer and listen to the way my husband talked to me, I broke down and started crying....bawling was more like it. My son asked me what was so upsetting to me. I told him I was so sorry I had ever gotten him into the mess I had. I was sorry that he had to hear all of that and that he was subjected to as much emotional abuse as I had been.
My son said to me...”Mom, I don't look at it that way. I see how NOT to treat a woman, how NOT to treat my friends and how NOT to behave as a man”
I have never forgotten that.
89 posted on 06/23/2010 12:15:09 PM PDT by 4everontheRight ("America is good. And if America ever ceases to be good, America will cease to be great." Tocquevill)
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