Posted on 06/11/2010 4:02:46 AM PDT by AbolishCSEU
Long Island Judge Gives 'Up Close and Personal' View of Parental Alienation June 10th, 2010 by Robert Franklin, Esq.
http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=4846
This article tells us that a Long Island judge has found Lauren Lippe (pictured in insert, right) in contempt of court for alienating her two daughters from their father, Ted Rubin (pictured) (New York Post, 6/8/10). The judge, Robert Ross, has scheduled a hearing to decide whether to change the couple's custody agreement that gave primary custody to Lippe. Lippe is to spend six weekends in jail this summer.
To all those who pretend, in the face of ever-mounting evidence to the contrary, that parents don't attempt to alienate children, please read this article which gives more of the details of the judge's findings (Law.com, 6/8/10). Suffice it to say that the contempt hearing took 23 days to complete.
(Excerpt) Read more at glennsacks.com ...
We must've had the same attorney.
The turnarounds for me were two separate occasions.
The first was when the clock ran out on her attorney postponing a deposition. The day before the deposition the ex caved and grated joint custody.
The second was a couple of years later after a pattern of visitation had been established where the kids were staying with me as much or more than with their mom. I was so cooperative with her dating schedule that she could rely on me to be available to keep the kids while she “entertained”.
I waited until the oldest was ready to testify to the judge about her drunkenness. When she landed a job where she was driving 200 miles both ways I filed for a visitation change.
When she realized her own son was going to spill the beans she caved.
/hugs. I’m so sorry to hear that. To miss out on a relationship with your father who wants one... I truly hope you can reconnect with your children some day. I know they miss you even if they don’t want to admit it.
Amen to that. I am fortunate to still have a job, but it killed my career - I went from being nationally recognized to a virtual nobody. My sons will never doubt that they are worthy of being loved, and you can't buy that.
maybe 1 out of 10 times the ex would do it.
Yeah, the boys' mother's attempts to alienate me backfired, and she cemented her own alienation when she failed to put forth the same kind of effort that the boys saw in me.
But all glory to the One who deserves it - when I wondered in front of the youngest how we did it, he said "We didn't. God did."
I freepmailed you.
I found the temptation to do this problematic, since I never could reconcile it with the last clause of 1 Cor 13:5.
As long as you don’t value your soul. Your joke is tasteless and inappropriate. The emotions that torment and rip apart the one flesh that God joined are bad enough without idiotic statements like this.
“it killed my career “
Same here. But at the same time it’s nice to have been hammered into a “money and pride isn’t everything” attitude.
My outlook on life is completely different now than before I was divorced.
Recently I was given a box of photos from just before and through my marriage. I see the guy just before divorce and I don’t recognize him. I have more in common with myself pre-marriage and early years than I do with the guy in the later marriage photos.
My kids recognize who was there for them when they needed someone. That’s all that matters.
“But all glory to the One who deserves it - when I wondered in front of the youngest how we did it, he said “We didn’t. God did.”
The most important thing you said.
Yes, God is what got me through it. I recall somewhere in the early days one morning sitting in front of the ex’s house waiting for the kids to come out for their ride to school.
Behind in work, Zero money, stress city going on I was pondering on having 13 years of my life tossed in the garbage and how different it would be in a good way once another 13 years had passed. I can’t recall how many times I prayed to God to just get me through one more day. Gradually things improved and sometime after 13 years God reminded me of that prior thought and that he took me through it one day at a time.
Which one did you feel more betrayed by?
Wait a minute! If your a SCalGal and your attorney was a "he"...
...so gross.
I find your statement rude and inappropriate.
I can understand that.
After my divorce, it felt like a huge mountain was lifted off my back.
Sigh.
Understandable.
And if that was your sense from The Lord, I’d have no argument.
However, I do not counsel women who’ve been beaten by their husbands . . . repeatedly . . . to ‘just work it out.’ Most such blokes never change. The woman needs totally free of that.
If God works a miracle, wonderful. Short of that . . .
To me, if keeping a journal helps a man take care of his kids in a Godly way, it’s a fitting Christian thing to do.
To me, I Cor 13:5 is about bitterness, pride, etc. storing up bitterness, resentments, and keeping a record of offenses in a bad faith kind of way for bad purposes.
I have to agree.
It allowed me, eventually, to go to China etc. and souls were saved therefrom.
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