Amen to that. I am fortunate to still have a job, but it killed my career - I went from being nationally recognized to a virtual nobody. My sons will never doubt that they are worthy of being loved, and you can't buy that.
maybe 1 out of 10 times the ex would do it.
Yeah, the boys' mother's attempts to alienate me backfired, and she cemented her own alienation when she failed to put forth the same kind of effort that the boys saw in me.
But all glory to the One who deserves it - when I wondered in front of the youngest how we did it, he said "We didn't. God did."
“it killed my career “
Same here. But at the same time it’s nice to have been hammered into a “money and pride isn’t everything” attitude.
My outlook on life is completely different now than before I was divorced.
Recently I was given a box of photos from just before and through my marriage. I see the guy just before divorce and I don’t recognize him. I have more in common with myself pre-marriage and early years than I do with the guy in the later marriage photos.
My kids recognize who was there for them when they needed someone. That’s all that matters.
“But all glory to the One who deserves it - when I wondered in front of the youngest how we did it, he said “We didn’t. God did.”
The most important thing you said.
Yes, God is what got me through it. I recall somewhere in the early days one morning sitting in front of the ex’s house waiting for the kids to come out for their ride to school.
Behind in work, Zero money, stress city going on I was pondering on having 13 years of my life tossed in the garbage and how different it would be in a good way once another 13 years had passed. I can’t recall how many times I prayed to God to just get me through one more day. Gradually things improved and sometime after 13 years God reminded me of that prior thought and that he took me through it one day at a time.