Posted on 05/14/2010 3:34:53 PM PDT by NYer
NEW YORK, May 14, 2010 (LifeSiteNews.com) - Rozanda "Chilli" Thomas, better known as a member of the successful 1990s hip-hop trio TLC, has joined a growing number of women and men who have come forward with horrendous stories of post-abortion grief. In a recent interview, the singer revealed that an abortion that she got when she was 20 years old “broke my spirit,” and robbed her of her "strong self."
The singer discussed her abortion on the May 9 episode of the VH1 reality TV series "What Chilli Wants," which follows the singer as she seeks help to establish a long-lasting relationship. Prompted to discuss her first relationship, with producer Dallas Austin, Thomas recounted her emotions upon realizing that she was pregnant for the first time at 20 years old.
"I didn't have the support, and so I was so scared and didn't know what to do," she said, "and chose to not have it (the baby) - one of the biggest mistakes."
Far from an empowering option, the singer said the abortion seemed forced upon her by her budding career – and that it was a choice she didn't really want to make. "I'm 20, my career hadn't even really started, you know, so how do I do all that? How do I be a mommy?" she recalled. "It messed me up. I don't know - it broke my spirit."
She continued, through tears: "I feel like I became, I don't know - kind of like, not my strong self anymore. I feel like I gave in and I broke to what someone else wanted.
"And I would break down and I would just cry - because I wasn't a mommy. I cried almost every day for almost nine years."
Thomas said that she eventually pursued the one way she felt she could "fix" the abortion - by having another child by the same man. The relationship later disintegrated.
Georgette Fourney of Silent No More Awareness, a group dedicated to raising awareness of post-abortion grief, said that Thomas' story is a common one, and that more and more women are stepping forward to tell their own stories.
"I think it's time," Fourney told LifeSiteNews.com. "It's almost like what's happening is that the reality of what the last 50 years of the sexual revolution - the havoc it's wreaked on women - women are starting to realize."
"Real feminism says that we can be women, and we can embrace our femininity, and we can say no to people taking advantage of our sexuality," said Fourney, who sympathized with Thomas' statement that the abortion robbed her of strength.
"People are waking up to the fact that abortion does not empower women, but undermines them, and women are much stronger and they don't need the weak solution of abortion," she said. "That's exactly what we're telling people - is that abortion doesn't empower you, it's the opposite, it takes the strength away from you."
Click here to read more testimonies of post-abortive women on the Silent No More Awareness Web site.
Ping!
Very sad.
I saw an angel the day I went to an abortion clinic. That angel spared me from doing the unthinkable. It was 25+ years ago. I hope I have changed many lives through telling my story.
It is very sad. This will be with her for the rest of her life.
I’m glad she has shared her story.
I hope she finds what she is clearly seeking. Forgiveness is forever. Grace is freeing.
SnakeDoc
Thank you for posting your personal story. You saw an angel. Here's the true story of an abortionist who was visited by a saint.
Serbian Abortionist Who Aborted 48,000 Babies Becomes Pro-Life Activist
Amazing story - a modern day Saul of a sorts with his conversion.
If she is Catholic, she needs to go to Confession and she will feel like a HUGE WEIGHT is lifted off her soul. Prayers.
My husband and I lost a child, a daughter, at 24 weeks gestation. She lived about an hour. This was in Dec 2000. I’ve had three daughters since, but there isn’t a day goes by that I don’t think of our precious lost baby.
I can’t imagine a woman knowingly, purposefully, consigning her child to death. May God have mercy on their souls.
Thank you.
I’m rather surprised that this story was aired on MTV. Good.
“A Dream A Lot Like Mine” at http://emmettgrayson.com is my little part of this growing story. Go to the “mixpod player” and click the title of the song if you’d like to hear it. It does get a better response even in the smokey bars than I ever really expected.
Sorry I missed that it was VH1 not MTV
The worst lie ever perpetrated on women by the “feminist” movement was that abortion was the great equalizer.
Abortion has done more to subserviate women to men than anything else in history.
This is the EXACT same scenario that happened to a friend in college. She cried every day post abortion and the only way she could think to fix it was to have another child by the same guy. She was pregnant within two months, had the child and dropped out of college. Haven't heard from her since.
I was at the March for Life this year. One of the most powerful images was the women on stage carrying signs that read “I Regret My Abortion”, as well as one woman who stood at the podium and tearfully told her story.
The courage it takes for those women to publicly come forward.... I can’t imagine. We must never forget that not all women who have abortions do it “willingly.” So many, too many, are pressured and forced by boyfriends, parents, etc. We need to pray for women in these circumstances, not condemn them. May God bless them and keep them.
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This happens a lot, and it never gets talked about.
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