Posted on 05/14/2010 3:34:53 PM PDT by NYer
NEW YORK, May 14, 2010 (LifeSiteNews.com) - Rozanda "Chilli" Thomas, better known as a member of the successful 1990s hip-hop trio TLC, has joined a growing number of women and men who have come forward with horrendous stories of post-abortion grief. In a recent interview, the singer revealed that an abortion that she got when she was 20 years old “broke my spirit,” and robbed her of her "strong self."
The singer discussed her abortion on the May 9 episode of the VH1 reality TV series "What Chilli Wants," which follows the singer as she seeks help to establish a long-lasting relationship. Prompted to discuss her first relationship, with producer Dallas Austin, Thomas recounted her emotions upon realizing that she was pregnant for the first time at 20 years old.
"I didn't have the support, and so I was so scared and didn't know what to do," she said, "and chose to not have it (the baby) - one of the biggest mistakes."
Far from an empowering option, the singer said the abortion seemed forced upon her by her budding career – and that it was a choice she didn't really want to make. "I'm 20, my career hadn't even really started, you know, so how do I do all that? How do I be a mommy?" she recalled. "It messed me up. I don't know - it broke my spirit."
She continued, through tears: "I feel like I became, I don't know - kind of like, not my strong self anymore. I feel like I gave in and I broke to what someone else wanted.
"And I would break down and I would just cry - because I wasn't a mommy. I cried almost every day for almost nine years."
Thomas said that she eventually pursued the one way she felt she could "fix" the abortion - by having another child by the same man. The relationship later disintegrated.
Georgette Fourney of Silent No More Awareness, a group dedicated to raising awareness of post-abortion grief, said that Thomas' story is a common one, and that more and more women are stepping forward to tell their own stories.
"I think it's time," Fourney told LifeSiteNews.com. "It's almost like what's happening is that the reality of what the last 50 years of the sexual revolution - the havoc it's wreaked on women - women are starting to realize."
"Real feminism says that we can be women, and we can embrace our femininity, and we can say no to people taking advantage of our sexuality," said Fourney, who sympathized with Thomas' statement that the abortion robbed her of strength.
"People are waking up to the fact that abortion does not empower women, but undermines them, and women are much stronger and they don't need the weak solution of abortion," she said. "That's exactly what we're telling people - is that abortion doesn't empower you, it's the opposite, it takes the strength away from you."
Click here to read more testimonies of post-abortive women on the Silent No More Awareness Web site.
((((((((Hugs))))))))))Where is your story?
I disagree.
Its one of the terrible symptoms of the true lie.
That women should aspire to be as men.
Men and Women are created different for a reason, and the great lie is that being a woman is less valuable than being a man.
From that one lie - “ you are worthless the way God made you woman” springs all the other horror.
Enough is enough of that.
why just 9 years? 9 year olds are cute too although just starting to be gangley
Just think how the kid FELT!
I did a couple of papers on abortion in college..For one I interviewed the woman that ran a program for unwed mothers, providing medical care, housing if needed and adoption or parenting services..
She told me a very large percentage of the girls they service had an abortion earlier and were having this baby intentionally to sooth their guilt.
All these "stars " that say they had abortions and are thrilled and had not problem have scorched consciences that can do evil and say it is good
I’ve met dozens of women who had abortions, they all went through considerable problems coming to terms with what they had done.
Thank You ,Fatima
Did she meet the rest of his family: Odessa, Belton, Sugarland, and Fort Worth?
Michael Talbot John Michael Talbot - Holy is His Name
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9aYecuDlDYM
My grandmother confessed to me, when she was about 92, that she had had an abortion. “Your grandfather had left to report the Mexican Revolution, and I didn’t know if he’d be back.” It was still bothering her, and I suspect I was the only one she ever told. I was visiting her with my new baby.
Sorry to say, I was young and not a Christian, and I could only muster something to the effect of, “It’ll be ok.” She knew better - she had my mother after g’f returned, and she had carried living children in her own body.
A cousin of mine started a non-profit organization that counsels women who’ve had abortions. She’s a strong Christian since childhood and very anti abortion. They don’t tell women at the killing clinics about the feelings they’ll go through later in life.
That was not a dream.
Are you familiar with .....
Sounds like some wonderful caring people.
My husband and I just saw the prolife documentary movie, Blood Money at the Madison Theater, Albany, NY and it was very informative. Father Pavone of Priests for Life, Dr. Alvita King were among the many who were in the documentary movie. One of the commentators in the movie said that most women know how bad abortion is, but what they really need is for us to tell them we love them, and they are special, and they need a good way out.
We hope the movie is available on DVD later on.
btw, it was supposed to be shown first at the Spectrum Theater, Albany, NY, but they backed out (someone on the radio said from pressure from proabortion groups), but the Madison Theater said on their phone message, with the movie times, that they were proud to show this documentary movie.
Here’s the website for those who wish to view the trailer of Blood Money:
http://bloodmoneyfilm.com/about.php
Also, you might be interested in Father Pavone’s Twitter account:
http://twitter.com/frfrankpavone
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