When we were thinking of adopting from Russia the adoption was finalized in Russia before the child could be brought to the US. Two trips were required-one to meet the child and accept the referral and another to pick up the child and go to court in Russia to finalize.
what about the american finalization at state level?
A schoolmate of my son was adopted from Russia, both he and his sister, they were in the 4th and 6th grade. They had come to this country through a church outreach program and spent the summer. This couple looked into adopting, it took them a very long time, they spent time with the children in Russia, and with the children’s family.....the mother was a bad alcoholic...eventually the adoption came through, the kids seem to be doing great...the boy Kyle, who is my son’s age has lots of friends, very involved with his church youth group and plays sports (really good too!), the older sister came at the beginning of Middle school and she seems great as well.
Not all adoptions turn out horrible, but placing a severely damaged child is not out of the realm of possibility.
Let her deal with it....he’s 7 now, what happens when he is 17?