Yes, but what can we do? You can’t “make” someone have a child any more than you can force them not to...
I (white male) didn’t marry until 30.
If either of us had married in our 20s, to anyone either of us had been romantically involved with, we’d both be miserable right now - but as it stands, we have one child, would like one more, and we’re mature and able to raise our family right.
Is it somehow my fault I didn’t meet the woman I wanted to marry until I was 28?
we have one child
Hey white male. I’m glad you have found happiness with your family. You need to have at least one more. Not because you are white, but because kids are great, and kids need a sibling or two to bounce things off of.
“Yes, but what can we do? You can’t “make” someone have a child any more than you can force them not to...
I (white male) didn’t marry until 30.
If either of us had married in our 20s, to anyone either of us had been romantically involved with, we’d both be miserable right now - but as it stands, we have one child, would like one more, and we’re mature and able to raise our family right.
Is it somehow my fault I didn’t meet the woman I wanted to marry until I was 28?”
Did your parents and your in-laws teach both of you how important family is, to start early, have as many as possible and not to look as children as an inconvenience?
What can you do to repair the situation? Teach your children to value life, marriage, children, and family.
Hispanics place a much higher value on such and it reflects in the number of children they have. Until Whitey gets with the program and makes family a priority you will continue to see this demographic accelerate into minority status on a national level.
At some point the white women will have to return to the place they abandoned starting in the early 1970s if they want to turn this trend around. Where women go the men will follow.
Are we talking quality or quantity here? I’m in about the same situation as you, only I’m a little farther down the road. Out of law school at 24, married at 26, first house at 28, first child at 29, second at 33. I’m 50 now, both boys are well-grounded Christian men who appear to have good futures ahead of them. I really do believe that it’s because my wife and I made the choice to go about things in this order:
1. Education
2. Career
3. Marriage
4. Home
5. Child
If you move “child” up the list, statistically you lessen the chances of the child to be successful in life. Not always, there are certainly individual exceptions, and I don’t mean to stereotype. But I don’t like to run risks with the future of my children.
Sure, my wife and I could have had eight kids and started when we were 22. It all depends on whether you want quality or quantity.