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Simon Doonan and Jonathan Adler were married Thursday evening at the Clift Hotel in San Francisco. Howard Steiermann, a minister of the Universal Ministries, officiated at a ceremony that included Jewish traditions.

Mr. Doonan 55, is the creative director of Barneys New York. He is also a columnist for The New York Observer

Mr. Doonan is the son of the late Betty Doonan, who lived in Bangor, Northern Ireland, and the late Terry Doonan, who lived in Hove, England. His parents both worked for the BBC; his mother was a clerk in the news department and his father monitored foreign broadcasts.

Mr. Adler, 42, is a potter, an interior decorator and an owner of home furnishing and design stores bearing his name. He is also the head judge on “Top Design,” a reality series on the Bravo network.

Mr. Adler is a son of Cynthia Adler of New York and the late Harry R. Adler. His mother was a lawyer at his father’s law practice in Bridgeton, N.J.

Mr. Doonan and Mr. Adler met in November 1994 on a blind date arranged by a mutual friend.

“The bloke who set us up just had some intuition that we would hit it off,” Mr. Doonan said. And they did, for the most part. “He’s very good-looking, charming and funny,” he said. But ...

“He badgered me with lots of direct questions,” Mr. Doonan said. “In England people wouldn’t ask a lot of direct questions.”

So he chose not to answer many of them.

“He was kind of monosyllabic and a little remote on the first date,” Mr. Adler said. “But there was a little spark.”

Enough for a second date, watching the Mike Leigh film “Abigail’s Party” (“as a litmus test of his humor,” Mr. Doonan said). That sealed the deal.

“We have a ridiculous amount in common,” Mr. Doonan said. “We both hate smug people. We both rant at the same things.” And, he added, “We both drink a lot of tea.”