There's a fine line between speaking up and making oneself holier than the Church. I agree that the laity have had to bear a much greater burden in trying to end abuses, than should have ever taken place, but oftentimes the 'hold the feet to the fire' approach turns into character assassination, calumny, gossip, and outright slander based on misinformation and lies originating elsewhere. In essence, one has to walk a tightrope between constructively critizing a priest/bishop for their failings and criticizing the office itself, which is a grave sin.
Light a candle and you'll shed light on the situation.
Light a torch and you'll shed light on the situation... but maybe burn the place down, too.
I sort of understand what you are saying, but I can't afford that luxury since don't know as much as you do about the church.
So my choices are simple: shut up since I don't know enough to "walk that tightrope" or keep swinging it as I have been doing and let the chips fall where they may. No doing anything is not an option for me.
I still feel that if more Catholics (good ones and not so good ones) would SPEAK UP, the church, human that they are, would clean up faster and be more decisive in doing it. Thanks.