So your ideal wife would be one who is moderately sober, moderately faithful, and moderatly honest.
Yes, I would like her to have a drink now and then.
Yes, I would want her to have sufficient a sex drive that she would occassionally look at other men.
Yes, I would not want a totally honest wife. Some things should be softened or unsaid.
” some level of slavery is acceptable”
Yes, some level of giving our rights to society results in higher rights for all. For example, I and my neighbors give up the rights to murder and steal from one another so we can live in relative harmony (and sleep at night).
So yes, moderation in all things. Even moderation.
“... she would occassionally look at other men ...”
“moderately faithful,” will be more than looking. I really do not believe you.
Just how much moderate dishonesty will you tolerate in your banker, by the way.
Hank