My grandmother (85) got along fine until her stroke last year. Now she needs supervision.
My mother, who is a retired nurse, moved in with her.
Yep, family is the best option. No way I could let my mother waste away in a nursing home away from the family that she took care of for 40 years.
I’m going to get all teary now. Your mom is very fortunate to have an advocate like you!
My Great Grandmother went into a small private nursing home. I don’t know a lot about it, because her daughter (my Grandmother) is the one who took care of all of that, but I can tell you, Granny hated it. My husband and I would go with the kids and visit her and take her for a drive (she was mobile and lucid). When we would take her back she would cry. I felt terrible, and in hindsight maybe I could/should have tried to do something about it, but we lived far away in another town (5 hours away) and were young with small kids. Still, I feel bad when I think about her having to be there when she hated it.