The level of experience, care and attentiveness by the staff at most nursing homes rivals that of the sales staff hiding amidst the anonymity of department and big box stores.
There has to be a better way to provide care for the aging
I believe it is called family and at home care. Dying at home with at least some dignity intact would be a preference for many.
There is a better way. For 2 1/2 years I took care of my mother in my home. The last year she was incontinent. I didn’t waiver, my family supported me and she died here at our home. I have no regrets. None. If I can do it anyone can.
My Mom died at home, my Dad took care of her (she had cancer). A couple of times she had to go into the hospital overnight, and the last time she did she called my Dad in the middle of the night and asked him to take her home. I’m not sure exactly why but she clearly wanted to be home, not being cared for by strangers. I know it was terrifically hard on Dad (he was not a young man). Mom had great insurance, so I’m sure she could have gone into a facility. But they did not get any help from hospice, because Mom refused to stop all treatments.
If ever faced with that, I will do my darnedest to care for my husband at home. I realize sometimes it’s simply not possible.
Amen! Family, if all can work together..is the best solution. Having the burden placed on one caregiver is so so hard. It would be nice to hire someone to come in to give the caregivers time off..and I pray I can afford that so my children won’t have to be overwhelmed. My biggest prayer is they won’t have to worry about it at all..that my hubby and I won’t need that level of care.
There is one nursing home I trusted in this area, until they went for profit. I saw their performance all hrs day and night. I checked in on a regular basis, never the same time. They were outstanding. Now, they are about costs over care... They didn’t have a high staff turn over, now they do.
Robert Reiche is on record as saying “kill them”.