yes--i call this "doing the next thing." we faced a major trauma in our family two years ago... having ordinary things to do is what kept me from falling apart completely... i did have moments of falling apart...
Exactly. I know when I received a call that my only sister and best friend died suddenly, totally unexpectedly, I did everything that was scheduled on my calendar that day. I HAD to, or wouldn’t have made it through the day. If I’d had a hair appointment I would have kept it! And maybe if I’d thought of it, I’d have made one. We just have to do what we have to do to keep it together as best we can.