I noticed that as well and just couldn't hack it. There were people there complaining about what their drunk mother/father had done....60 years earlier.
And it seemed to me that it wasn't possible to follow the Al-Alon or, for that matter, the AA model and also be a Christian and observe ones marriage vows.
After all, if it's a disease there's that "better or worse, sickness and health" clause and it looked to me that that was contrary to the AA/Al-Anon message.
I'm glad it works for some, no, I'm elated it works for some, but doggone if caring for my wife, drunk or not, makes me an "enabler" then it's not working for me.
Sorry, didn't mean to go off like that, but sheesh, there aren't too many outlets left...
I completely understand. A few people (who are no longer friends) said I should throw in the towel, but I had three young boys depending upon me and I really LOVED my husband! I loved his family as well and I loved the life we had all built together. I had a LOT to lose. I saw his addictions as a problem we needed to work through, not the END to our marriage. One day at a time INDEED, LOL!
Of course, I’m not one to be a doormat. If I hadn’t seen him change and work really, really hard to be an upstanding husband and father, I would’ve made a different decision.
He chose love and family over self-destruction. :) Sadly, some people can’t.